Celebrating the Small Things

It is so easy to become bogged down by the negative things in life and the things you can’t do or change, and to forget about celebrating the small things.

Don’t worry this isn’t one of those I’ll teach you how to be happy if you send me a lucky £20 note posts – although obviously you can if you want – it may help (joke). Nor is it a follow what I say, embrace positivity (seriously no one can teach you how to be happy) and you will be eternally happy forever post.

I really do think though, that celebrating the small things in life is so important. For instance this week I’ve been feeling  a bit fed up, as my son who has Type 1 Diabetes has been all over the place level wise no matter what I do, but I’m trying my hardest and he’s been happy.

I sat up a few nights ago at the side of his bed after treating his blood glucose levels (hypo) and I wrote a long post on my phone as I sat there with my eyes half-shut trying to stay awake to re-test him.

As I was writing on my phone, I was crying. I’d let everything get to me, including the sleep deprivation and I wrote a post entitled ‘Dear Diabetes’ that was pretty angry and depressing to read back. I couldn’t publish it, mostly because I don’t want my son in years to come to read things like that and think that his Type 1 Diabetes ruined my life – HE is the one who gets the worst side of it.

I don’t want him to think I was unhappy because of him, even though his Type 1 Diabetes is really not his fault or anyone else’s – I need to remind myself of that sometimes when I’m being hard on myself. Plus there are millions of people in this world a lot worse off than we are, millions who have more to complain about. We actually have a pretty brilliant life, me and my little family.

It made me realise though, that recently I have been stressing over things I can not change, which lets face it, is one of the least productive and healthy things I could be doing. My son’s Type 1 Diabetes won’t be disappearing, and nor will something else private that I have been dwelling on – family stuff I won’t get in to on here.

So I am trying to remind myself to celebrate the small things, enjoy the good parts of life and have the grace to accept the things I can’t change. I’m not religious, but the Serenity prayer below has always struck a chord with me and when I was feeling a bit low this week I saw it shared on Pinterest and it made me smile – the timing couldn’t have been more perfect.

serenity prayer - accept

This month already, I have for the first time in my life managed to make pancakes that weren’t a disaster, I have accepted regular freelance work lined up, been appointed as a Butlin’s Blogger Ambassador for 2016 and I’ve been lucky enough to have some quality family time this month with my favourite people.

Family Time

I don’t feel angry any more, though I can’t guarantee that the next night I’m sat up with my son when he’s having a bad night, or the next time he tells me he just wants to be like everyone else I won’t be. However I am trying to focus on the good things – I have so much to be happy about in my life and dwelling over the things you can’t change will never make you happy.

Stevie x

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  1. 14 February 2016 / 3:53 pm

    So very true. Sometimes no matter how tough things get – focusing on the small things gets you through. Usually I look at my children and just try to remember how lucky I am.

    • 14 February 2016 / 3:57 pm

      Thanks lovely, I think we all need a little reminder of how lucky we really are sometimes even on the worst days.

      Stevie x

  2. 14 February 2016 / 4:04 pm

    This is true and I think we are all guilty of it tbh. Sometimes life just gets too much and it can feel such a massive struggle. I’ve been really trying to focus on small things too over the last year – enjoying a sunny day even if it’s in the office, enjoying the nothing days where not a lot happens, just trying to be, instead of be something all the time. Be kind to yourself. It sounds like you are doing an amazing job x

    • 14 February 2016 / 4:13 pm

      Thanks lovely, I think we all have weeks where it just feels like everything is going wrong, but appreciating the little things that aren’t and focussing on them really seems to help me. Here’s to a much better week ;)

      Stevie x

  3. 14 February 2016 / 5:20 pm

    I understand! I’ve been so down due to my illness and how much it’s reciting me. I’m going to have to really cut down on the blogging department :( as I’m just too unwell and my illness like your sons diabetes is not going away! I’m still fighting to get the right treatment and it’s taking time and I won’t give up but like you I’m trying so hard to focus on the little good things rather than this big black sheep which is contrilling so much of mine and my families life! Angela x

    • 14 February 2016 / 10:01 pm

      Most definitely need to focus on the positives in life, I always think whatever situation you’re in, there is always someone worse off. I hope you get your treatment soon

      Stevie x

  4. 14 February 2016 / 8:24 pm

    Aw sorry to hear you have been feeling a little down Stevie. It must be so hard seeing your son trying to cope with diabetes. It sounds as if you already have your positive energy back, and I too am guilty of really stressing about the little things that I simply cannot change. Its true that we need to stop and look around at the wonderful positive things and people that surround us. Hugs xx

    • 14 February 2016 / 10:00 pm

      Thanks Tracey, usually we’re fine and my life motto is pretty much ‘it could be worse’ and looking on the positives, but it was one of those weeks where if there was something to go wrong it seemed to do so and I wasn’t focussing on the good things. My head and heart feel much lighter now, and I feel up to taking on the world again now ;)

      Stevie xx

  5. Mud cakes and wine
    14 February 2016 / 9:50 pm

    Yes the silent tears. Your such an amazing mummy with both your boys and it is hard with the type 1 constant worry. But you have done so well with the blog and it’s totally deserved on and up and always here for a type 1 moan xx

    • 14 February 2016 / 9:57 pm

      Thanks lovely, you of all people understand xx He’d been off ill again, we’d had the fun of ketones and then that night a hypo that took 4 treatments and an hour to recover from. Was the final straw of a bad week, but I have my positive head back on now

      Stevie xx

  6. 14 February 2016 / 11:14 pm

    Love this! So much can change with just a small perspective shift :) Celebrating small things of joy is a great way to keep yourself and others happy :)

  7. 14 February 2016 / 11:57 pm

    Great post. I totally agree that it is important to focus on the good things that are going on rather than the rubbish. That said, it’s also important to have a good moan to good friends sometimes.x

    • 14 February 2016 / 11:58 pm

      Oh most definitely, and you of all people know I’m good at that ha ;)

      Stevie x

  8. 15 February 2016 / 8:37 am

    What a touching post. I really relate to this, it is so easy to focus on the small things and lose sight of the bigger picture. We all have so much to be thankful for in many different ways. Thank you for such a refreshing post. xx

  9. 15 February 2016 / 6:09 pm

    Hey Stevie, sorry things have been a little tough esp with your boy must get so hard some days, I hope drafting that post let you get some stuff out. Pleased to see some really positive stuff happening for you all too this year, great news. Xx

    • 15 February 2016 / 7:58 pm

      Thanks Hannah, it was an especially tough week that I let get to me too much, but I feel a lot stronger this week and more ‘me’ again if that makes sense!

      Stevie xx

  10. Robyn
    15 February 2016 / 7:38 pm

    Glad to hear you found yourself feeling a little more philosophical come the light of day Stevie. Funny how sometimes it takes a pretty awful day or experience for us to remember all the good things we often overlook. Ironically I’ve found some of my hardest times in life also my most grateful :) I hope your son is back on track now.

    • 15 February 2016 / 8:00 pm

      He’s doing a lot better than he was thankfully, although we have his 3 monthly hospital check up tomorrow which I’m not looking forward, but lots of things to look forward to instead :) I do think when you’re at your lowest, you start to appreciate the smaller things more as well…happy things seem happier almost!

      Stevie x

      • Robyn
        17 February 2016 / 8:47 am

        Exactly! Hope the hospital check up went well and your mind is at ease now :)

        • 17 February 2016 / 10:28 am

          It was pretty awful and I ended up crying ha! It was needed though, and we are back on track now and I am feeling so much more positive about everything :)

          Stevie x

  11. 17 February 2016 / 5:16 pm

    It’s tough not to let things get to you. I’ve been having a bit of a downer recently after reading about that little girl who died of meningitis. So sad! But I’m trying to get out of it by cuddling my little ones for just a bit longer and enjoying those little moments. For example, I’m off sick with a horrid headcold but the plus side is that I’m at home with my girls and currently snuggling watching Ratatouille with Little Miss whilst MissMostyn is shaking (and eating) toys on the mat. She’s happy as larry!! x

    • 17 February 2016 / 8:03 pm

      I hope you feel better soon lovely, but great you get some extra quality time with your minis :)

      Stevie x

  12. 18 February 2016 / 11:00 pm

    Hey Stevie, you are a brilliant mum. I don’t know how you all cope to be honest, I’ve seen first hand how much you all have to put with, with our poor mate Fins diabetes. He does a great job and so do you. You should give yourself more credit, the things you do to help others in your situation is amazing . Hope to see you all soon xxxx

    • 23 February 2016 / 11:55 pm

      Thanks Lisa lovely, Fin’s actually had a sickness bug this week so a wee bit stressful but he’s getting better now which is a relief and we avoided a hospital trip by the skin of our teeth – that’s definitely a positive :) We can’t wait to see you guys again it feels like ages already!!

      Stevie xxx

  13. 19 February 2016 / 8:04 am

    As mum to a special needs child I can identify these feeling. I have just drafted a post about my son saying he hates being autistic. It is so hard as a mum to hear these things and I think it is normal to feel down and have negative thoughts some times Stevie. What is fabulous is how you have turned these around into something positive!

    • 23 February 2016 / 11:58 pm

      Oh Catie, it’s awful to hear them wish something you have no control over isn’t it? I can imagine it’s the same for you, if you focus on the negatives it’s easy to get bogged down and lost, even at the worst of times we have to keep going for them so dwelling won’t do any one any good. I’ll admit I still have my moments though ;)

      Stevie x

  14. 19 February 2016 / 8:26 am

    Ahh sweetie – I’m sorry sorry your son’s diabetes has been difficult to manage of late, but manage it you did! Well done! The idea of being grateful for the small stuff is such a good one. I used to keep a gratitude journal, three things every day no matter how small, that made me happy, I’d record at the end of the day. It’s a fab way of focussing on the good and not being engulfed by the bad.
    BTW I was thinking about your son the other day. Is he into coding and computers at all? My hubs is and one of his heroes in the coding world, Scott Hansleman, also has Type 1. He manages it really well and talks about it too. Just thought it might be interesting to your boy. xxx

  15. 19 February 2016 / 8:32 am

    Absolutely Stevie. There is very little point worrying too much about changing things that can’t be changed. I find focusing on good things and also working towards changing things that you can influence will give a much more positive outcome. Although you are only human and sometimes it’s okay to have a few moments to reflect on the toughness of a situation. It’s normal – don’t beat yourself up about it!

    Sally @ Life Loving
    #PickNMix

  16. 19 February 2016 / 8:39 am

    Sounds like you have had a tough week and I think sleep deprivation does not help with us trying to stay positive. You have done a grand job of getting out of the negative cycle and focussing on the positives. Hope you are all feeling better now and that your son is doing ok too :-) #picknmix

  17. 19 February 2016 / 9:58 am

    Living with type 1 diabetes is so incredibly hard for all involved and night time hypos are the worst – it sounds like you’re doing a great job x #picknmix

  18. 19 February 2016 / 10:38 am

    Such a great post. It is definitely important to focus on the positives in your life rather than the negatives that you cannot change. I always focus on the negatives, but am slowly starting to learn to love the positives. Slowly the negatives will become a smaller part of your thought process..thats what I am telling myself anyway. #picknmix

  19. 19 February 2016 / 11:38 am

    Sorry to hear you have been having a bit of a rough time lately! I find that focusing on the smaller things help. Some days just seem worse than others, keep your chin up! xx

  20. Sarah Admissions of a Working Mother
    19 February 2016 / 12:59 pm

    Yes! In the moment some things can really get you down – make you sad or angry. Then when you come away from the situation, you get a better perspective. Its not wrong to feel like this, its normal. You’ve just got to count your blessings. #PicknMix

  21. 19 February 2016 / 1:08 pm

    Sorry to hear you’ve been feeling down, things always feel so much worse when you’re tired as well. I love that little prayer, never seen it before but the words are very true. I also like to look at all the little things in my life to remind myself how lucky I am, it is an easy way to pick yourself up if you’re having a bad day.xx #picknmix

  22. 19 February 2016 / 4:06 pm

    This was a lovely post to read, and I am sorry things have been rough for you recently. I know very well that there is no point dwelling on things that you cannot change. I spoke a little about it in the post I linked up to #PicknMix actually. It takes strength to accept things are how they are and celebrating the small things definitely helps keep spirits up. I struggle often with something going on with me, but worrying about it will no change things. I am grateful every day for what I have and that is how I try to live my life. (this comment will make more sense after you read the #PicknMix post!)

  23. 19 February 2016 / 8:15 pm

    I’m glad to hear that you have some positive things to focus on at the moment – and they sound like things that are about you, which is really important. What sort of thing will you be doing for Bodmin Jail?
    Keep your chin up and I hope your son’s condition stabilises.
    x Alice
    #PicknMix

  24. 19 February 2016 / 8:43 pm

    Great post. We all have those moments when we feel like everything is total rubbish. Its how you handle those feelings and pull yourself back up that determines the strength of a person

  25. 19 February 2016 / 9:09 pm

    Love this post, thank you for your honesty. I think it’s naturally easier to dwell on the bad things, especially if our children are suffering, we find it hard to think about anything else. But you’re right, sometimes it’s so important just to be thankful for the little things in order to keep afloat x #picknmix

  26. 19 February 2016 / 9:36 pm

    The first quote is one of my favorites. I think focusing on the good things is a huge help to our mindset. Being grateful for what we have makes us happy. It’s amazing how that works. Lovely post, Stevie! And thanks so much for hosting pick n mix. xx

  27. 20 February 2016 / 8:13 am

    Love posts like this, its true we do all need reminding of the positives in life sometimes. Your boys will always know that you love them, they’ll also understand that some days everyone feels angry, not at them but at the situations. The boys are lucky to have such a supportive caring mum :) #picknmix

  28. 20 February 2016 / 3:04 pm

    Love that serenity poem. I always try and appreciate the little things which can be difficult at times when life gets a little overwhelming, but I always try and remember there are always people worse off than I am. That’s great about the freelance work and blogging for Butlins – well done you! x #picknmix

  29. Rachel (Lifeathomewithmrsb)
    20 February 2016 / 9:29 pm

    It is so easy to dwell on the negatives and not see the positive things in life. I have decided to write a monthly post on 6 things i loved each month. It could be having a hot cup of coffee, a bar of chocolate no one caught me eating or having time alone. I can then see in black and white all the good things :) #picknmix

  30. 21 February 2016 / 8:39 am

    I hope the diabetes gets a lot easier to manage and very quickly. I only had gestational diabetes for a little bit and I found it so hard to just understand what was going on with my body most days. the nurse treating me told me how her son was T1 and was travelling the world for 6 months. Sounded like an amazing thing x

  31. 21 February 2016 / 10:43 am

    Love this hun, I find when I’m tired everything always seems to feel so much worse. I hope writing the post helped though as sometimes I find just writing things down helps. The reason I started my # on Instagram was so I focused more on the little positives. Would love it if you joined in xx

  32. 23 February 2016 / 6:36 pm

    Ahh my lovely, I think sleep deprivation can really be such a killer on top of everything else you’re worried about I think it can make everything seem so much worse. I often say to myself too when I am struggling that there are millions in the world much worse than us, but is also ok to acknowledge that sometimes it is hard. Congrats on your achievements too though, that’s great news #picknmix

  33. 25 February 2016 / 11:24 pm

    I love the serenity poem. Well done you for managing to focus on the positives – especially with everything you’ve had going on. Lots of achievements that you very rightly should be proud of! Xx #PicknMix

    • 26 February 2016 / 12:15 am

      Thanks lovely, we’ve had a few stressful times this month but hoping all is calm now, but I feel better able to cope if not! :)

      Stevie x

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