It is so easy to become bogged down by the negative things in life and the things you can’t do or change, and to forget about celebrating the small things.
Don’t worry this isn’t one of those I’ll teach you how to be happy if you send me a lucky £20 note posts – although obviously you can if you want – it may help (joke). Nor is it a follow what I say, embrace positivity (seriously no one can teach you how to be happy) and you will be eternally happy forever post.
I really do think though, that celebrating the small things in life is so important. For instance this week I’ve been feeling a bit fed up, as my son who has Type 1 Diabetes has been all over the place level wise no matter what I do, but I’m trying my hardest and he’s been happy.
I sat up a few nights ago at the side of his bed after treating his blood glucose levels (hypo) and I wrote a long post on my phone as I sat there with my eyes half-shut trying to stay awake to re-test him.
As I was writing on my phone, I was crying. I’d let everything get to me, including the sleep deprivation and I wrote a post entitled ‘Dear Diabetes’ that was pretty angry and depressing to read back. I couldn’t publish it, mostly because I don’t want my son in years to come to read things like that and think that his Type 1 Diabetes ruined my life – HE is the one who gets the worst side of it.
I don’t want him to think I was unhappy because of him, even though his Type 1 Diabetes is really not his fault or anyone else’s – I need to remind myself of that sometimes when I’m being hard on myself. Plus there are millions of people in this world a lot worse off than we are, millions who have more to complain about. We actually have a pretty brilliant life, me and my little family.
It made me realise though, that recently I have been stressing over things I can not change, which lets face it, is one of the least productive and healthy things I could be doing. My son’s Type 1 Diabetes won’t be disappearing, and nor will something else private that I have been dwelling on – family stuff I won’t get in to on here.
So I am trying to remind myself to celebrate the small things, enjoy the good parts of life and have the grace to accept the things I can’t change. I’m not religious, but the Serenity prayer below has always struck a chord with me and when I was feeling a bit low this week I saw it shared on Pinterest and it made me smile – the timing couldn’t have been more perfect.
This month already, I have for the first time in my life managed to make pancakes that weren’t a disaster, I have accepted regular freelance work lined up, been appointed as a Butlin’s Blogger Ambassador for 2016 and I’ve been lucky enough to have some quality family time this month with my favourite people.
I don’t feel angry any more, though I can’t guarantee that the next night I’m sat up with my son when he’s having a bad night, or the next time he tells me he just wants to be like everyone else I won’t be. However I am trying to focus on the good things – I have so much to be happy about in my life and dwelling over the things you can’t change will never make you happy.