Today on my social media timelines I have seen lots of photos of Elf on the Shelf elves getting up to all sorts of mischief and people giving their children a special ‘advent breakfast’.
Firstly ‘advent breakfast’?! Is that actually a thing now? Which is fine and lovely, making happy memories and traditions with your children is amazing however you choose to do it.
As for the elf on the shelf – I personally find the elf a bit creepy and smug looking … I swear that creepy little guy follows you with his eyes. I think I am very much in the minority with that though.
I do kind of get why people like it and I suspect finding new hiding places and random activities for the elf to be doing is probably pretty hilarious and fun. If the boys were younger and I could find a less creepy looking elf that, then I expect I may have even joined in.
There are some pretty amazing home-made advent calendars being shared too, that people have put so much effort into. Plus the book advents where people have somehow found the time and patience to wrap 24 books up.
Then there’s the other side of it. The parents I am seeing online, who are feeling actual guilt because they haven’t bought an elf, they haven’t Pinterested their way to the perfect home-made advent calendar or gotten up at the crack of dawn to cook their children pancakes in the shape of a reindeer.
Now to me Christmas is about family time, it isn’t about putting a lot of stress and excess levels of guilt upon yourself for not giving your child an Instagram perfect Christmas and advent. If your Christmas tree looks like ours will when it goes up, like someone emptied a bag of glittery crap on the tree and then got bored halfway through decorating it, then seriously relax.
These Instagram and Pinterest perfect homes are probably nowhere near as perfect as they look. If they’re anything like me, then they’ve cleared one corner in their disgustingly messy house to look vaguely like they have their act together. Si has renamed cobwebs as Blogwebs in our house.
The advents and elves and advent breakfasts… yes if you want to do them then do them, seriously Christmas binge all you want. However, if you don’t want to do all of that stuff or have no time as you barely have time to brush your hair each day… don’t do it. Don’t feel such pressure that you lose sleep and stay up til 2am cursing that your gingerbread house keeps falling apart or your ‘effortless’ home-made advent calendar is actually the craft project from hell.
Do Christmas your way. Mum/Dad guilt is prevalent enough during the rest of the year, at least give yourself ruddy Christmas off!
Alternatively buy gin*, a lot of gin. (*insert whatever alcoholic tipple you want)