Normalising Intimate Health Conversations with Canesten

 

Canesten recently contacted me to ask me to be involved in a campaign of theirs ‘The Mummy Conversations’. The campaign is about normalising intimate health conversations between parents and their children.

 

Canesten - mother and son talking

 

Canesten believes that if you feel more comfortable with your own body you are more likely to reach your full potential. I can understand where they are coming from with this.

 

Self confidence can be such a huge factor in so many things in life and feeling confident in yourself and understanding your own body can make a real difference.

 

Children go through so many changes in their bodies as they get older and head towards adulthood, and unless we talk to them about what is and isn’t normal as far as their intimate health is concerned, then how will they know? Personally I would always want my boys to learn these things from me rather than from the internet or from mixed up word of mouth from their friends at school.

 

The boys know that no matter what the issue in their lives, whether physical or emotional, that they can come to me or Si and we can talk about it. This is how I always intended it to be and I am glad that being open and frank with them has meant that they don’t feel embarrassed to talk about more delicate things with us.

 

Most of the Canesten campaign and posts such as Thrush Symptoms are aimed at women and girls. This is because on the whole things like Thrush do tend to be a lot more common in women, but did you know that males can actually have Thrush as well?

 

Along with a range of other issues that can occur ‘down below’, both boys and girls need to be taught that it is okay to ask their parents or a doctor about these things. That it is okay to talk about intimate issues and to be given the vocabulary to do so.

 

Silhouette - Canesten talk.

 

Willy is an easy non offensive sounding one for boys. However, I have to admit the ‘V’ word is not one that I ever use and I am solely not using now as I don’t especially want people coming to my site from google looking for such things … I’m sure you know what I mean.

 

Whatever names you give to your intimate parts, Twinkle, Noodle, Foo Foo, Winkie, Minnie, ‘boy bits’, ‘lady bits’, down below, etc etc – this list could become rather hilarious. Just make sure that your child has a word to use if and when they need to discuss any issues with you. Any word that you and they feel comfortable with.

 

If using a different word makes you feel more comfortable discussing things with your child then there is nothing wrong with that. We can give them the correct vocabulary as they get older, but the most important thing is to actually have those conversations. There may be some giggling, some cringing etc from both of you, but don’t let it stop you.

 

Luckily my own mother was very open about these sorts of issues, although I used to find it hilarious how much she struggled to find a word to use that didn’t make her cringe, as she spoke to myself and my sisters.

 

Understanding their own bodies and knowing that they can talk to you about anything can be a real confidence boost for a child, especially as they get towards the teenage years. Don’t you agree?

 

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388 Comments

  1. 11 December 2016 / 4:26 pm

    I wish that my mum had been more open it may have helped more growing up. I think when Alfie is old enough to understand certain things (probably over 8?) then me and Dan will chat with him then.

  2. luce
    11 December 2016 / 5:07 pm

    From the start! Make it ‘normal’ like any other body parts and it won’t be an issue :-)

  3. angela treadway
    11 December 2016 / 5:08 pm

    i would probably say around 13 years x

  4. Julie T
    11 December 2016 / 5:24 pm

    I feel that 11 / 12 is about the right age especially for girls as it could be around that age when periods start and any advance warning and knowledge is beneficial so that they know what happens in their bodies. You can’t leave children to just discover things for themselves, they need to be informed.

  5. MARK THOMAS
    11 December 2016 / 5:25 pm

    Age 10. At that age , not only are they at school , they understand issues better . And they need to be well informed as they enter adolescence .

  6. Peter Watson
    11 December 2016 / 5:31 pm

    As soon as possible as early intervention saves a lot of problems further down the road of life.

  7. Susan Sargent
    11 December 2016 / 5:35 pm

    I think if the child asks then you should give them an answer , relevant to their age

  8. Tania Atfield
    11 December 2016 / 5:43 pm

    8 or 9 maybe I think because they are asking questions anyway then

  9. ann goody
    11 December 2016 / 5:45 pm

    11 need to know as things might have started to happen already

  10. Susan Chafer
    11 December 2016 / 5:49 pm

    Children pick up so much at school and from friends that I think it pays to be honest with them from a fairly early age. Each parent knows how “mature” their child is, but on average I would say 8 or 9 is probably a reasonable age.

  11. James Lockwood
    11 December 2016 / 5:50 pm

    “What age do you think is the right age to discuss intimate health with children and why?”

    17! I think such concepts can only be understood by a mind approaching adulthood.

  12. michelle olner
    11 December 2016 / 5:55 pm

    ive also discussed these kind of things as and when theyve been bought up my children. i’ve always been very open about them about everything, in an appropriate for there age kind of way, but i suppose between the ages of 8-10 would be appropriate

  13. Mark richardson
    11 December 2016 / 5:58 pm

    Children seem to know more quicker now,but probably around eleven years just so they can still enjoy some idea of childhood.

  14. Andrew Petrie
    11 December 2016 / 5:59 pm

    This will vary slightly from child to child but basically as soon as you think they are old enough to fully understand. Ten or eleven.

  15. Joan Apperley
    11 December 2016 / 5:59 pm

    I have tried to explain things to my girls about their bodies.

  16. Dawn Brodribb
    11 December 2016 / 6:03 pm

    I think between 9-10 this way they can understand and be prepared in case of unexpected surprises

  17. Bev
    11 December 2016 / 6:04 pm

    When they show signs of needing it or being curious. Any earlier and it may well scare them!

  18. Sue McCarthy
    11 December 2016 / 6:05 pm

    I don’t have any kids but I suppose around 10

  19. William G
    11 December 2016 / 6:11 pm

    It depends on the mental, not physical age of th child. H was a late developer, so it was early teens when conversations started, even though she wasn’t all that interested! She still liked playing with a bucket and spade when she was 15, but she’s a fine young woman now!

  20. Graham Ross
    11 December 2016 / 6:18 pm

    Just before they go to secondary school

  21. christine szlobodnik
    11 December 2016 / 6:30 pm

    11 years old or when your daughter has started her periods.

  22. kelly wheelhouse
    11 December 2016 / 6:31 pm

    I personally think about 11 years old as that’s the age where I feel it’s important they start to be aware of the changes which will be happening to their bodies

  23. Iona Cornish
    11 December 2016 / 6:40 pm

    As soon as they start to ask questions. That way it’s normal and not something dirty to be snickered over

  24. Rachael ashmore
    11 December 2016 / 6:44 pm

    I have always been very open with all 3 of my children from very young I think it then makes to easier to discuss the more important intimate things when their a bit older

  25. iain maciver
    11 December 2016 / 6:49 pm

    maybe 10 years on

  26. Rob Hutchinson
    11 December 2016 / 6:56 pm

    I wouldn’t even discuss it unless they want to. There’s plenty of information on the internet. I’d leave it up to them to do their own research.

  27. Char Keddy
    11 December 2016 / 6:58 pm

    I’d say around the 9 or 10 year mark, depending on the child.

  28. sarah rees
    11 December 2016 / 6:59 pm

    10

  29. Andrew reed
    11 December 2016 / 7:05 pm

    Earlier the better

  30. Kim Neville
    11 December 2016 / 7:11 pm

    I would say age 9 as some children start puberty early and kids talk at school

  31. Tracey Peach
    11 December 2016 / 7:16 pm

    I think around 10 because it’s just before their bodies start to change

  32. 11 December 2016 / 7:17 pm

    I’ve never thought about it, but I guess when they’re old enough to ask questions they’re old enough to start hearing answers!

  33. Denfor Hopkins
    11 December 2016 / 7:18 pm

    At age 8

  34. joanna butler-savage
    11 December 2016 / 7:21 pm

    aged 10 before high school

  35. Sara Goodman
    11 December 2016 / 7:21 pm

    At about 12 or 13 when they are mature enough to understand.

    Thanks for a fantastic giveaway :)

  36. Emma Lewis
    11 December 2016 / 7:22 pm

    around 10 but really depends on the child

  37. Tracey Ryder
    11 December 2016 / 7:23 pm

    about 11-12 when they are noticing changes in there body

  38. Pauline jaconelli
    11 December 2016 / 7:26 pm

    Definitely around the age of ten, I don’t think parents should wait until they start questioning as it can be embarrassing for young girls to talk about this sort of thing. So get in there first and tell them that there’s nothing to be embarrassed about that it’s natural, everyone goes through it and you should talk about this sort of thing

  39. Tracy Nixon
    11 December 2016 / 7:28 pm

    From the age of 9.

  40. Marc Chivers
    11 December 2016 / 7:28 pm

    Around 7-8 as they are old enough to understand

  41. Soph H
    11 December 2016 / 7:29 pm

    Around 10 I think as their bodies usually start maturing around this age.

  42. Fiona K
    11 December 2016 / 7:30 pm

    I think around the age of 11 when they are starting to mature and develop

  43. Janice Dunn
    11 December 2016 / 7:33 pm

    I’d say about 10/11 years old, at that age they are more conscious of their body

  44. Lindsey Stuart
    11 December 2016 / 7:33 pm

    I think around 11 years old (Just before high school)

  45. Charlotte Clark
    11 December 2016 / 7:37 pm

    12 :)

  46. Fardoos
    11 December 2016 / 7:37 pm

    Probably about 10 or 11

  47. Frank Page
    11 December 2016 / 7:39 pm

    As soon as it becomes relevant, no need to shy away from things these days, the more knoweledge a child has the better.

  48. Sinead ORourke
    11 December 2016 / 7:48 pm

    about 13 because they are now a teenager.

  49. Lee Ritson
    11 December 2016 / 7:48 pm

    12 – 13. Its around the time they would probably start becoming curious anyway and it’ll get talked about in school so thats a good age I think

  50. Terri Kelly
    11 December 2016 / 7:53 pm

    No specific age, just when it seems appropriate

  51. Lori Mckillop
    11 December 2016 / 7:54 pm

    Around 10 years old :)

  52. sam macaree
    11 December 2016 / 7:59 pm

    when they ask about it, shows they are looking for answers

  53. Ellie Wood
    11 December 2016 / 7:59 pm

    Throughout childhood, but the proper chat before secondary school

  54. Claire Willmer
    11 December 2016 / 8:02 pm

    I think it depends on the child and also being honest but with age appropriate answers.

  55. Justine Hughes
    11 December 2016 / 8:07 pm

    I think around 10 before puberty starts.

  56. lucy higgins
    11 December 2016 / 8:09 pm

    I think around 10 before they start secondary school, ideally before puberty

  57. Paul Wilson
    11 December 2016 / 8:14 pm

    10 or 11 – they seem to be mature enough at that age.

  58. Sonya Cisco
    11 December 2016 / 8:20 pm

    Certainly by the time they are ten, but I always answer questions honestly using age appropriate language whatever age they are.

  59. Zoe C
    11 December 2016 / 8:23 pm

    Approx 10, depends on the child’s development really

  60. celine
    11 December 2016 / 8:23 pm

    I would say 12-13 :D

  61. Alana Walker
    11 December 2016 / 8:24 pm

    Probably at around 10 or 11 before the start secondary school/puberty.

  62. Hannah Igoe
    11 December 2016 / 8:27 pm

    I think right from the start if you make it totally normal when they are small its just grows with you. I think if you leave it until later it becomes way more awkward and both you and them feel like that, rather than it being natural and normal to talk about.

  63. Danielle Rawlings
    11 December 2016 / 8:33 pm

    Around the time they hit puberty, they need to know whats going on with their bodies

  64. Christine Shelley
    11 December 2016 / 8:34 pm

    As soon as they start asking questions but not too detailed so as to frighten them , it coukd pick them off

  65. Jules Eley
    11 December 2016 / 8:36 pm

    I think it depends on the child, my NOW 13 year old was never comfortable and found it very hard to talk but I just waited until he did feel he was ready, now at 13 he tells me everything and we have a great relationship, we have a little laugh about things because it is embarrassing but we both know its important to talk about these things.

  66. Katie
    11 December 2016 / 8:38 pm

    I think as young as possible really. I started my periods at 11 and I know girls can start even earlier.

  67. Vicky Limerick
    11 December 2016 / 8:40 pm

    I think about 11

  68. Anni Large
    11 December 2016 / 8:44 pm

    About 11-12, when puberty tends to start to hit. Any time before that and I think it could get overwhelming. 11 is about the age where hormones start to increase so I think it’s a good age to start to discuss intimate things so prepare the children for the upcoming changes to their bodies.

  69. Abigail Cullen
    11 December 2016 / 8:44 pm

    Between the ages of 8 and 10, kids these days grow up so quickly, I feel this is an appropriate age in which they would understand.

  70. Annmarie Gould
    11 December 2016 / 8:46 pm

    i think around the age of 10 before puberty hits!

  71. laura banks
    11 December 2016 / 8:50 pm

    probably when they are 11 and heading off to high school

  72. Sam McKean
    11 December 2016 / 8:53 pm

    Around 10 years of age seems pretty perfect

  73. Kat Glynn
    11 December 2016 / 8:53 pm

    I think it depends on the individual child.

  74. Victoria e
    11 December 2016 / 8:56 pm

    Depends on the maturity of the child but around 10 or older.

  75. Heather Haigh
    11 December 2016 / 8:59 pm

    I think it depends on the children, and it should just be a natural part of family conversation like anything else.

  76. fozia Akhtar
    11 December 2016 / 9:02 pm

    8 or 9 as they start to ask questions at that age

  77. Louis Perera
    11 December 2016 / 9:05 pm

    About 10

  78. carole n
    11 December 2016 / 9:05 pm

    depending on their maturity, around 11ish

  79. Hon (Charlie) Cheung
    11 December 2016 / 9:15 pm

    Around 9’ish ?

  80. Tee simpson
    11 December 2016 / 9:17 pm

    From really early 18 months old or younger because the earlier the better and you can instil trust and communication

  81. Emma Gibson
    11 December 2016 / 9:25 pm

    About 8 cuz you’ve got to inform them young to avoid embarrassment.

  82. Francesca Hale
    11 December 2016 / 9:27 pm

    From around 10 years old or so.

  83. emma walters
    11 December 2016 / 9:28 pm

    i would say 10-12 depending on maturity

  84. Mark Witherington
    11 December 2016 / 9:31 pm

    as soon as… I cannot give an age would really depend on the child as to when they are at an age to take it in and tailoring the chat to their age

  85. Emma Pascoe
    11 December 2016 / 9:33 pm

    As soon as my daughter asks. She is 5 and we talk about keeping herself clean and comfy, but my mum didnt do any of the conversations with me – I learnt everything from my friends! Kids have much better access to the internet these days though, but I would prefer my daughter talked to me :) x

  86. Sarah Mackay
    11 December 2016 / 10:00 pm

    Around 9 years of age

  87. Angela Sandhu
    11 December 2016 / 10:06 pm

    9 or 10

  88. 11 December 2016 / 10:17 pm

    As a midwife I have no radar for awkward conversations. So as soon as my daughter asks I’ll tell her appropriate to her age of course.

  89. Maggie Ali
    11 December 2016 / 10:20 pm

    I think around the age 10-11.

  90. glenn hutton
    11 December 2016 / 10:32 pm

    I think it depends on the child concerned, also if they ask I think its best to answer them truthfully in a way they understand and to not make an ‘issue’ of it. :)

  91. Darren McNally
    11 December 2016 / 10:35 pm

    Early teens

  92. Anthony Harrington
    11 December 2016 / 10:47 pm

    I think it depends on the maturity of the child, I would guess 9-10 years if the child is ready to receive and understand. I think parents are usually led by the child when they start asking questions.

  93. Hannah Ingham
    11 December 2016 / 11:11 pm

    About 9 – 10, but it depends on each individual of course!

  94. 11 December 2016 / 11:16 pm

    I don’t think there is ever a ‘right’ age and we have already started having basic conversations with A and T at 5 and 3. I think if you normalise conversations from the start they will get easier as they get older x

  95. gabby evans
    11 December 2016 / 11:18 pm

    about 9 puberty starts much earlier now

  96. tracy sinclair
    11 December 2016 / 11:27 pm

    You’ll know when its the right time, only you know your child x

  97. Anita
    11 December 2016 / 11:33 pm

    Pre-teen 10-11 years old so they can be prepared and understand it better.

  98. Sophie Grayling
    11 December 2016 / 11:51 pm

    I would say 8 or 9, for me as a child I probably would of been fine waiting until 11 but some children develop shockingly faster so I think it’s good to tell them way in advance in case they are one of the few

  99. Michelle lintern
    12 December 2016 / 12:12 am

    As soon as they ask questions, although the detail of the answer is age dependent on how much they can understand and is appropriate at the time.

  100. Solange
    12 December 2016 / 12:44 am

    I would say around 10 or 11.

  101. Margaret GALLAGHER
    12 December 2016 / 1:18 am

    Mid primary school
    As girls can start yheir periods early
    Yhe sooner the better

  102. Donna Sadler
    12 December 2016 / 4:05 am

    Both of my boys matured at different ages, mentally AND physically, I think you need to play it by ear with your child really. I did however broach the subject during their last year of primary school.

  103. caroline walliss
    12 December 2016 / 5:10 am

    I would say between 11 and 12 but i think the level of maturity is also very important, thanks.x

  104. Phil Darling
    12 December 2016 / 6:02 am

    I’d say between 10 and 11 years – as soon as your child is ready

  105. Michaela Hannah
    12 December 2016 / 6:09 am

    I think around about 10/11 when they start becoming more curious about those sort of things

  106. Joanne Beale
    12 December 2016 / 6:18 am

    I think it depends on when puberty starts in the child as all children mature body wise at different rates as I have found with my friend’s daughter who is quite advanced at 9.

  107. Ruth Harwood
    12 December 2016 / 7:53 am

    I would say around 10, but all children are different xx

  108. claire woods
    12 December 2016 / 8:17 am

    Age 12 because my son is 11 and I don’t think he would be ready.

  109. Jennifer Haden
    12 December 2016 / 9:06 am

    I think it really depends on the child, but maybe around the age of 12-13

  110. AnnaH
    12 December 2016 / 9:29 am

    Towards top end of primary school. I don’t want to burden my children with info before they’re ready to know, but I also want to catch them while they’re still young enough not to be embarrassed by me discussing it

  111. ROBERT MCINTOSH
    12 December 2016 / 10:36 am

    There is no one age – be honest with children and they will ask the questions when they are ready

  112. Andrea Fletcher
    12 December 2016 / 11:10 am

    Around the age of 10.

  113. Molly
    12 December 2016 / 11:28 am

    I don’t think there’s a definitive age. Each child is individual, some more mature than others so it should simply be at a stage in their development where the parents see fit

  114. Helen Moulden
    12 December 2016 / 11:29 am

    Probably at about the age of 9/10 years old

  115. Hilda Wright
    12 December 2016 / 11:42 am

    I always talked openly with my son about anything as and when, it just keeps everything normal and nothing to be embarrassed about. He will happily talk to me about anything!

  116. paul
    12 December 2016 / 12:42 pm

    around 10

  117. Ray Dodds
    12 December 2016 / 12:49 pm

    Whenever they ask tailor it for the age they ask

  118. Jade Hewlett
    12 December 2016 / 1:23 pm

    Around 11 years old

  119. 12 December 2016 / 1:35 pm

    I wouldn’t say there’s any minimum age. If they have questions, they need to be answered – and it needs to be clear that it’s a completely normal conversation to have :)

  120. Nicola Lynch
    12 December 2016 / 2:14 pm

    Around 10 I think, before changes start happening to their bodies. Education is key.

  121. Joseph Dawson
    12 December 2016 / 2:51 pm

    Just before they go to high shool

  122. 12 December 2016 / 3:43 pm

    I think it totally depends on the child and their level of maturity. I’d also wait until they were curious too.

  123. Hannah Scudder
    12 December 2016 / 4:07 pm

    It really does depend on the child and when they will be able to understand.

  124. Henry Little
    12 December 2016 / 4:45 pm

    when you think they are old enough to understand

  125. Becky Duffy
    12 December 2016 / 4:55 pm

    At about 9-10 or when they start asking questions as I think that’s about the right time they’re ready to know!

  126. clair downham
    12 December 2016 / 6:13 pm

    i think 9 or 10 before puberty hits

  127. Nicola Dow
    12 December 2016 / 7:05 pm

    Just before puberty so they know what to expect.

  128. Michelle Ferguson
    12 December 2016 / 7:12 pm

    I think about age 9 as this is when kids start talking about it

  129. Kim Styles
    12 December 2016 / 7:23 pm

    I think about 10 years is right

  130. Kamara
    12 December 2016 / 7:33 pm

    I think at around 10 – children are a lot smarter and ‘in the know’ than we give them credit for sometimes and I’d rather the talk come from a trusted source.

  131. Corinne Peat
    12 December 2016 / 7:40 pm

    I think a less detailed version can be talked about with children as young as 6 and 7 then add more detail when they are 8 or 9. It all depends on the child and what they will understand.

  132. Rachael G
    12 December 2016 / 8:21 pm

    I think throughout childhood to make it more normal. Certainly before puberty.

  133. Tracy Newton
    12 December 2016 / 8:22 pm

    My son started asking questions at four so I answered with age appropriate answers

  134. Laura Pritchard
    12 December 2016 / 8:38 pm

    I think as young as possible, you can always introduce it informally when they’re little but more of a conversation at about 8 or 9 when they take responsibility to keep fresh!

  135. Ellen Sheppard
    12 December 2016 / 9:35 pm

    I think it depends on the maturity of the child but probably around 10 or 11

  136. Kara Walker
    12 December 2016 / 9:37 pm

    From 11 or 12 is when they are at secondary school and will probably understand it more.

  137. 12 December 2016 / 10:00 pm

    I think it’s an ongoing process rather than just one big talk at a particular age. I made an effort to be open and honest about things, in a way that showed that some things aren’t for the whole street to hear, but okay for family or close friends.

  138. Emma Salter
    12 December 2016 / 10:32 pm

    That depends on how mature your child is. I think as a mum you know the right time.

  139. Laura Todd
    12 December 2016 / 10:42 pm

    I think it would always depend on the individual child

  140. sandy
    12 December 2016 / 10:47 pm

    I would say around 11/12 years old

  141. Jayne Townson
    12 December 2016 / 10:49 pm

    I think as soon as they start asking questions and certainly before they start secondary school.

    • Jayne Townson
      12 December 2016 / 10:54 pm

      I should add, that I think the above is the right age, because if it’s something you’ve always spoke about, it makes not such a big deal.

  142. 12 December 2016 / 11:14 pm

    I was really early starting my period – around 8 or 9, so I really think it depends child to child, some will need to be taught earlier than others for many different reasons.

  143. Carol Thomas
    13 December 2016 / 12:37 am

    I think it is more complex than a straightforward answer. I certainly believe in openness with children age appropriate. When my late Mom was 1st diagnosed with cancer in 1996 I talked with all our 3, who were 11, 9 and 7 at the time. I talked with them all separately about it and then bought us all together to decide what we could do together for their Grandma. They were perfectly accepting about it.

    A woman I knew told me all the details of her Mom being ill when she was young were kept from her. She was only told when her Mom died she had gone to heaven. She said it told messed with her head. When she got older she couldn’t stand closed doors and people talking in a room when she wasn’t included. She said she felt isolated, afraid and alone, wondering what she had done.

    I do believe it is right to tell children what they can understand

  144. TRACY JAMES
    13 December 2016 / 12:57 am

    i think 11/12 is a good time to start that conversation with a serious note. i expect we have have chatted along those lines from a very early age but i believe kids are ready to listen at a later stage of childhood x

  145. A.E. ADKINS
    13 December 2016 / 1:03 am

    As soon as they ask, just give an age appropriate answer.

  146. barbara daniels
    13 December 2016 / 7:49 am

    i would say about 13

  147. Louise McArthur
    13 December 2016 / 9:37 am

    I would say between 9-10 as they have a better understanding at that age and kids these days I feel are getting younger and knowing more

  148. Georgina Nathan
    13 December 2016 / 10:09 am

    I think around 9 or 10 is a good age, I wish my mother had spoken to me about it when I was younger. I started my period when I was 10 and had no idea what was happening to me until I ran from the bathroom screaming that I was bleeding. I have a 5 year old son, I’ve spoken to him about how his private areas are his and that nobody should should touch him there. I will wait until he’s older and more curious before I start explaining further.

  149. Leanne Timmins
    13 December 2016 / 10:26 am

    Start slowly as young as possible.

  150. Susan Trubey
    13 December 2016 / 12:11 pm

    When you feel they are ready.

  151. Kristina Trick
    13 December 2016 / 1:42 pm

    If they ask questions whatever age try to answer them honestly but appropriate to their age. Putting it off or giving them fairy stories may make them feel silly for asking the question.

  152. Rea Louise Smith
    13 December 2016 / 1:57 pm

    Personally I always think you can’t put an age on it. As parents, you know when the time is right. Maybe you talk to your child at age 10, but another child older or younger. It depends completely on the child. It’s a conversation that needs to be had, but the age can completely vary. As long as when the conversation comes, you make it as normal as possible, there isn’t an issue xx

  153. Joanne Hutchings
    13 December 2016 / 2:19 pm

    As soon as they start school because that’s when they’ll start to get their information from sources other than you.

  154. Beverley Cousins
    13 December 2016 / 2:31 pm

    Around 10/11

  155. Jo Hutchinson
    13 December 2016 / 3:46 pm

    Around nine or when the child is ready, and make the chat normal as possible.

  156. Gillian Holmes
    13 December 2016 / 4:14 pm

    11 / 12 is about the right age

  157. charlotte
    13 December 2016 / 4:28 pm

    i think just before starting secondary although i think it varies between different children

  158. Denise Cross
    13 December 2016 / 6:34 pm

    Don’t make an issue out of body parts and your child won’t see them as an issue

  159. Michael Rattray
    13 December 2016 / 7:08 pm

    I don’t think there’s a set age just when they are ready to understand

  160. Diane Waugh
    13 December 2016 / 7:09 pm

    I think between 11-12

  161. Chelsey Hollings
    13 December 2016 / 7:17 pm

    Between 11 and 12

  162. lia sturman
    13 December 2016 / 7:46 pm

    I think around 10 because its just before their bodies start to change

  163. Ross Hanney
    13 December 2016 / 8:10 pm

    As others have said, as soon as possible. It should be a “normal” thing to talk about.

  164. Heather Morrison
    13 December 2016 / 8:25 pm

    It depends on the child but as young as possible really. It should just be a gradually introduced discussion so that they’re not shocked by all the information when they’re older xx

  165. Catherine
    13 December 2016 / 9:16 pm

    from the start as then it isnt embarrassing for either of you and you can have that relationship that isnt awkward

  166. beky austerberry
    14 December 2016 / 9:17 am

    I spoke to both my son and daughter about intimate issues when they asked the questions; in my opinion it is never too young. The conversation should just be limited to what they need to know and expanded on as they get older

  167. Lorraine Stone
    14 December 2016 / 9:57 am

    As young as possible, make it a part of the normal language. I think it will help in understanding wrong situations (if heaven forbid!) they occur later on. Just be natural with your child and they will accept it.

  168. Jodie A Harvey
    14 December 2016 / 10:08 am

    I stared early with mine, around 8 – before they hit the ’embarrassment’ stage, they feel they can talk to me about anything now

  169. Matt McAndrew
    14 December 2016 / 1:10 pm

    Oh I have absolutely no idea!

  170. michelle o'neill
    14 December 2016 / 3:22 pm

    i thinkas soon as they are old enough to understand x

  171. jen s morgan
    14 December 2016 / 5:35 pm

    I think it can vary alot depending on the child but a rough age around 9/10 before any changes start to happen

  172. Julie Howarth
    14 December 2016 / 7:52 pm

    I think around about 10/11 but if they ask questions before try to answer honestly

  173. Kathryn Davies
    14 December 2016 / 9:04 pm

    When they ask, answer. If they don’t ask around 10 because they need to be aware of changes in their bodies

  174. Kelly Hemmings
    14 December 2016 / 9:24 pm

    I’d say it depends on your child. Maybe around 12 years old. I’d wait really for them to come to me I guess.
    I wasn’t told everything before it happened. I think you just need a good relationship with your child, so they can come & talk to you about anything.

  175. Helen Stratton
    14 December 2016 / 10:06 pm

    They should definitely know by puberty, so they have no nasty surprises. I think you should answer all questions honestly in an appropriate way for their age.

  176. Caroline Cordery
    15 December 2016 / 10:27 am

    I think age 7 for girls. I don’t know yet for boys.

  177. Kristyn Harris
    15 December 2016 / 10:35 am

    I think every child is so different with what they understand it is difficult to state an age. I would talk to them about from as early as they would be able to understand.

  178. Ruby Spiteri
    15 December 2016 / 10:49 am

    around the age 11/12 as they may already be asking questions, just when you think they are ready to understand x

  179. Rebecca Austin
    15 December 2016 / 10:50 am

    When your child starts asking questions you should be honest, if your child does not ask then i think the best age would be around 10

  180. Kimberley Ryan
    15 December 2016 / 11:53 am

    i don’t think there is a right age, each child is ready at a different time

  181. Mark Beynon
    15 December 2016 / 1:08 pm

    About 8 or 9 depending on the child, because they are far more advanced these days.

  182. Darren Mckenzie
    15 December 2016 / 4:10 pm

    about 10

  183. Bob Clark
    15 December 2016 / 4:58 pm

    Once they are teenagers – perhaps a bit earlier

  184. Lesley carnochan
    15 December 2016 / 6:57 pm

    10 year old

  185. Jennifer Toal
    15 December 2016 / 7:43 pm

    I believe in being honest when questions arise

  186. Sandra Foreman
    15 December 2016 / 8:02 pm

    It depends on the child

  187. Helen Humphries
    15 December 2016 / 8:04 pm

    I think by age 10 if they haven’t asked questions themselves earlier.

  188. Sarah Brokenshire
    15 December 2016 / 10:55 pm

    depends how mature the child is.. 14 or 15 x

  189. Julianne
    15 December 2016 / 11:31 pm

    I have a 9year old son and try to answer all questions asked honestly and I like for him to open with me and able to ask me questions and come to me

  190. Abigail Daniel
    16 December 2016 / 1:45 am

    I would say about 11/12? :))

  191. Susan Ellins
    16 December 2016 / 10:06 am

    When it becomes necessary or when they show an interest

  192. natalie grice
    16 December 2016 / 10:10 am

    as young as you think its needed, each child Is different :)

  193. greig spencer
    16 December 2016 / 1:46 pm

    I BELIEVE WHEN THE CHILD ASKS WE SHOULD TELL THEM

  194. Rebecca Howells (@PeanutHog)
    16 December 2016 / 3:20 pm

    Approx age 9 – 10. It is always best to tell the truth and not have to hide secrets.

  195. jennifer bolognesi
    16 December 2016 / 3:31 pm

    Whenever health issues are likely to arise at any age.

  196. Jan H
    16 December 2016 / 6:58 pm

    As soon as the child is old enough to understand, it is better to be open with them from the start

  197. Corinna Jennings
    16 December 2016 / 10:10 pm

    Hmmm. I have an 8 year old daughter & I feel that she’s too young at the minute. In the next year or 2 maybe, I’ll start to discuss these matters with her

  198. Melanie Slater
    16 December 2016 / 10:21 pm

    I think from age 7 up over, and start with explaining that hygiene routine in intake areas are a must to prevent infection etc.

  199. Sam Swain
    17 December 2016 / 1:15 pm

    I think that you should answer any questions that they have honestly at any age

  200. melanie stirling
    17 December 2016 / 4:52 pm

    I think it’s always important to be honest when they ask questions but at around the age of 9 I think it is the right time to broach the subject yourself.

  201. Paula T
    17 December 2016 / 5:06 pm

    There’s never really been an age in our house and my children can ask me whatever questions they like I just make sure the information given is more age appropriate.

  202. eirini kourvouli
    17 December 2016 / 6:52 pm

    As soon as possible as early intervention saves a lot of problems

  203. Harline
    17 December 2016 / 7:01 pm

    Id say 12/13 years when they start pupity

  204. Libby Noack
    17 December 2016 / 7:16 pm

    I remember other children talking about personal things when I started Junior School – so I will start talking to my daughter about 8.

  205. LAURA WHEATLEY
    17 December 2016 / 10:17 pm

    11

  206. Sheri Darby
    17 December 2016 / 10:45 pm

    Probably about 11

  207. Tammy Westrup
    17 December 2016 / 11:12 pm

    Maybe 11/12 but depends on their maturity

  208. Farhana
    18 December 2016 / 12:05 am

    I don’t think there is a set age but depends on the childs mental maturity. It would be around the time they hit puberty

  209. Susan H
    18 December 2016 / 4:49 am

    Around 8 as a nurse we see girls coming in to A&E early each year.

    • Susan H
      18 December 2016 / 4:50 am

      that can’t type

  210. AnnaS
    18 December 2016 / 6:14 am

    Arond 6 in my opinion. It is not tabu but anatomy

  211. suzanne sendell
    18 December 2016 / 7:07 am

    As soon as possible,It makes things easier to talk about openly later on In life

  212. Angela McDonald
    18 December 2016 / 7:34 am

    I think around the age of 9 or 10 – when they start asking questions if it’s younger, I would rather be honest

  213. vicky beaman
    18 December 2016 / 8:02 am

    depends on child. When they are ready and are asking seriously

  214. Victoria Prince
    18 December 2016 / 9:11 am

    I don’t think there is really a “right” age, I think it depends very much on the individual child. Some will be more curious than others, and of course they all mature at different rates!

  215. Dorogi Eva
    18 December 2016 / 9:45 am

    9 they are already digesting some science at school

  216. Katie Thomas
    18 December 2016 / 10:59 am

    As soon asthey start asking questions – never too young in my opinion and always important to be open and honest

  217. kirsty szekeres
    18 December 2016 / 11:11 am

    Probably around the age of 9/10 just because some children can start periods earlier so wouldnt want to be caught out by nature. Tbh though my daughter knows at the age of 5 that I have a period and bleed and that it is completely natural just havent gone indepth into the whys.

  218. Angela Kelly
    18 December 2016 / 11:50 am

    It’s never too early.

  219. Char
    18 December 2016 / 11:50 am

    As young as possible – make it normal and something not wierd to talk about. Just as long as it is before secondary school. When being ill informed can be embarrsing for them.

  220. cheryl lovell
    18 December 2016 / 1:32 pm

    It should be started at a very early age, in an age appropriate manner

  221. michelle speight
    18 December 2016 / 1:56 pm

    it varies from child to child but iw ould agree with some others about 10 is appropriate

  222. Lauren Old
    18 December 2016 / 2:05 pm

    I would say beginning of secondary school so around 11

  223. Imogen Richards
    18 December 2016 / 2:14 pm

    As soon as they start to seem curious! I feel girls are allowed to know as soon as they want!

  224. Amanda Gregory
    18 December 2016 / 2:35 pm

    I think that answering anything they ask, whatever age, is important. There’s no need to go in to massive detail when they are very young asking questions but honesty is important.

  225. Keith Dixon
    18 December 2016 / 2:53 pm

    When they start school as they will learn it there and it’s better coming from you. From a teacher :-)

  226. Katie m
    18 December 2016 / 4:19 pm

    Around 10 years or when they start asking questions. An age they can understand

  227. Jane Middleton
    18 December 2016 / 4:56 pm

    It’s important to learn them good habits, so start as early as you can with the basics.

  228. Deborah Bird
    18 December 2016 / 5:37 pm

    I think as soon as children start asking questions they should be told the truth x

  229. John Heap
    18 December 2016 / 5:47 pm

    Depends on the child certainly

  230. Maggie Coates
    18 December 2016 / 5:57 pm

    Start as a toddler by explaining how to wipe your bottom properly from front to back

  231. 18 December 2016 / 6:14 pm

    Around nine or ten, they tend to ask questions then and it is easier to bring it up in conversation

  232. Lucy Mills
    18 December 2016 / 6:28 pm

    I would say start to talk about more basic things from a young age and explain things when they ask. Depending on the maturity of the child I would say go into it a bit more when preparing them for periods

  233. gemma raines
    18 December 2016 / 6:30 pm

    I think the ages of 10/11 would be fine though I would also say it depends on the child

  234. 18 December 2016 / 6:35 pm

    Different things at different ages I think, but 9 is a good starting point I think.

  235. Anthea Holloway
    18 December 2016 / 6:36 pm

    As soon as they can understand what you are talking about – probably about 4 or 5.

  236. Phil Boyle
    18 December 2016 / 6:46 pm

    @ 10 years of age.

  237. Sandra
    18 December 2016 / 7:06 pm

    when they start to ask questions- your answers just need to be appropriate for their age

  238. janine atkin
    18 December 2016 / 7:25 pm

    11 or 12- maybe earlier if handled carefully

  239. Gillian Mcclelland
    18 December 2016 / 7:31 pm

    As soon as each child asks questions, every child is different, just be honest, open and approachable

  240. Kimberley Hazelton
    18 December 2016 / 7:37 pm

    I agree with many other posters saying around 10/11/12 as this is usually when puberty starts to kick in and it’s good for them and you to be prepared.

    Many issues can be discussed before then ‘as and when’ they come up when the are younger than that (explaining what a period is if they find a tampon in your bag etc).

  241. Rebecca Funnell
    18 December 2016 / 7:42 pm

    My daughter is 9 and I’ve talked to her about it already.

  242. Jessica Cook
    18 December 2016 / 7:44 pm

    I woudl say about the age of 10 or 11 before starting senior school, they are likely to be more understanding and sensible at that age

  243. Kay Broomfield
    18 December 2016 / 8:26 pm

    I think all children are different but as soon as questions start coming up they need to be answered in an age-appropriate fashion.

  244. Paula Phillips
    18 December 2016 / 8:27 pm

    About 10 I think as they will need to learn about puberty then.

  245. Allan Fullarton
    18 December 2016 / 8:29 pm

    11 need to know as things might have started to happen already

  246. Jay Hill
    18 December 2016 / 8:34 pm

    I think it depends on the child. I do think it’s important not to make an issue out of these matters but any discussion should be age appropriate.

  247. ADEINNE TONNER
    18 December 2016 / 8:50 pm

    For myself personally i would said around nine or ten years old as hopefully they are getting mature enough to begin talking about this stuff and the earlier you start the conversations the easier it gets.

  248. Rebecca Howe
    18 December 2016 / 8:58 pm

    When it becomes neccessary, but I would say s early as possible, throughout childhood, it will make it more natural

  249. Steph Lovatt
    18 December 2016 / 9:26 pm

    I think it depends on the child but around the age of 10/11

  250. Kim Lam
    18 December 2016 / 9:35 pm

    I don’t think there is a set age. Every child is different

  251. Sarah Wilson
    18 December 2016 / 9:44 pm

    I think around 9 to 10, but just judge it on your individual child.

  252. Amy Dacre
    18 December 2016 / 9:46 pm

    I’d say aged 10/11. Last year of primary school. It’s makes sure they will be ready for when they go to secondary school.

  253. Kat Allinson
    18 December 2016 / 10:18 pm

    I think around 8-9 but I guess it also depends on the child themselves, I’m hoping I will just know the right time when it comes

  254. 18 December 2016 / 10:19 pm

    when they are old enough to understand – perhaps 7/8?

  255. Teresa sheldon
    18 December 2016 / 10:26 pm

    I would say 10 that age there old enough to understand and take the info in before they get to Secondry school and hear it from other kids and be misled

  256. Joy Dehany
    18 December 2016 / 10:27 pm

    it varies considerably, however, I think it should be around 8 years old. And of course, hygiene should discussed as a matter of course anyway. Thank you.

  257. Hazel Rea
    18 December 2016 / 10:34 pm

    It should just be a part of normal hygiene teaching – like cleaning teeth – so it is normal and not something to be worried about discussing. As someone else has said it starts with knowing how to wipe properly when learning to go to the toilet alone.

  258. Nancy Bradford
    18 December 2016 / 10:42 pm

    I’ve not thought about it much yet – I would say 15 or 16 – when they start being more concerned themselves.

  259. Lisa c
    18 December 2016 / 11:09 pm

    To make it feel normal from a young age

  260. Lorraine Tinsley
    18 December 2016 / 11:34 pm

    I would say around 11-13 depending on the maturity of the child. I started my periods young around 10 so I think just after that would be the best. I don’t want them thinking it is dirty or gross it is just one of those things to make sure they stay safe and well.

  261. Jayne K
    18 December 2016 / 11:39 pm

    Before puberty definitely and hopefully from a young age to normalise it

  262. Eleanor P
    19 December 2016 / 12:07 am

    I really do think it depends on the child and the sort of questions they are asking! I would say early puberty (11+) as a general rule but if they are asking questions a little earlier then it may be appropriate earlier.

  263. Jacqueline Chapman
    19 December 2016 / 12:09 am

    Every child is different, I would say as soon as the parent feels they are old enough to understand. It’s best to talk about these things early so it becomes normal to do so.

  264. leanne weir
    19 December 2016 / 12:23 am

    As soon as possible as they have more access to this info then ever before anyway

  265. Charlotte Burford
    19 December 2016 / 12:30 am

    For me, around 12 when they are or will soon reach puberty, but if they ask before hand I would be happy to discuss.

  266. Charmian Filewood
    19 December 2016 / 12:41 am

    Well it very much depends upon the child, and who better to pick up on things than the parents as they know their child best. I would say giving a brief over view at 8 or 9 is fine and adding more information as time goes on. Always leaving the door open for any questions they may have

  267. Jane Gorton
    19 December 2016 / 12:47 am

    Around about 10yrs but it all depends on your child – you know best! Fantastic prize, thank you so much x

  268. Lynsey Buchanan
    19 December 2016 / 12:53 am

    around 8/9 would be a good age to talk about intimate health with children as knowledge is power so the earlier the better.

  269. 19 December 2016 / 1:18 am

    I would think about 10, at that age they are starting to notice themselves changing and its better to be prepared than shocked by anything.

  270. Richard Tyler
    19 December 2016 / 1:43 am

    I’d say around the 10/11 mark

  271. 19 December 2016 / 1:58 am

    I’ve always spoken openly to my daughter who’s just turned 11 and already started her period poor love. I think as soon as they understand about looking after them selves down there and what’s normal, they would notice when something wasn’t right and be able to tell you, so I would say start naming your parts about 4 and then as they get older explain about washing etc. hope that makes sense.

  272. Alix Boswell
    19 December 2016 / 2:03 am

    Maybe just before high school.. so 10 or 11!

  273. alice lightning
    19 December 2016 / 2:56 am

    about 11 -12 yrars old nowadays they grow up to quick nowadays

  274. KARL BOROWY
    19 December 2016 / 3:16 am

    10years old before high school

  275. Julie Wilson
    19 December 2016 / 3:49 am

    About 8, but if you’re not embarrassed from the start it’s less of a problem.

  276. Carly Belsey
    19 December 2016 / 4:29 am

    I would say from the start of senior school before they start hearing things from other children

  277. claire fawkner
    19 December 2016 / 6:39 am

    Just before they hit senior school

  278. Christine Hobbs
    19 December 2016 / 6:57 am

    From the start certainly before 5 because children learn all the time and if you are open and discuss anything in simple terms children understand and are not afraid to ask questions or discuss issues further and when older.

  279. Madeline Johns
    19 December 2016 / 7:14 am

    my parents were always very open about these sorts of things, and i would say around 6/7. its really important for kids to understand its ok to discuss these things and not be ashamed etc :)

  280. lucy knight
    19 December 2016 / 8:44 am

    In my experience with my daughter I would say around ten as children need to know about these things to safeguard from abuse. etc

  281. Rachel Butler
    19 December 2016 / 8:45 am

    I totally agree that being open about things is vital for our children, otherwise they will never feel comfortable talking to us about personal issues. My son is only 6 and we use the term ‘Mickey’. I think the best age to start talking about things is maybe 10 or so. Just before puberty starts. You want to prepare them for what’s ahead! X

  282. Kirsty Woods
    19 December 2016 / 8:52 am

    I think it depends on the individual and when they have questions. My daughter is 7, if there is anything she wants to know, she asks.

  283. caroline tokes
    19 December 2016 / 8:58 am

    Once kids start asking questions I think they should be answered truthfully if they are to young don’t go into great detail but for a proper conversation i would say 11/12 once they have started secondary school

  284. danielle pooley
    19 December 2016 / 9:03 am

    This is a tough question. I would say 11 years old, would properly be about right.

  285. Dawn Samples
    19 December 2016 / 9:11 am

    I would say 8 and above. It depends on the child and if they’re asking questions you should answer honestly and be open with them x

  286. Kirsty Sparks
    19 December 2016 / 9:27 am

    About 10 when they are mature enough to understand :)

  287. Marie Rule
    19 December 2016 / 9:28 am

    Around 10-11, at a pre-puberty stage, so they understand the changes that are about to happen to them.

  288. Geoff Hibbert
    19 December 2016 / 9:40 am

    As soon as possible, possibly from age 4 if they’re bright enough – they’ll get told at school anyway and it’s likely they’ll be told a load of rubbish.

  289. Kelly Hirst
    19 December 2016 / 9:52 am

    I think it depends on the individual child. It I’d say around 9-10 years old

  290. Rachel James
    19 December 2016 / 9:58 am

    I would have said towards the end of primary school, but when I tried to speak to my daughter about it when she was that age she ended up very distressed! I think the real answer is that each child is an individual and you need to assess them in that manner and speak to them when you think it’s right, not by any set age.

  291. Michael Clarke
    19 December 2016 / 10:13 am

    When they start asking questions

  292. Ashley Whitbread
    19 December 2016 / 10:35 am

    id say stay open about everything, but when your child seems interested in this sort of thing, I would usually think around the ages of 5/6 they would start asking little questions but maybe just very little, and then more in details when they are a little older.

  293. Erin S
    19 December 2016 / 10:37 am

    I don’t think we could put a number to it.
    As soon as the child is autonomous with washing, they should know that it is safe and OK to let us know if something looks or feels different in their intimate area.

  294. Liz Mitchell
    19 December 2016 / 10:46 am

    I agree with Luce, just make it normal

  295. 19 December 2016 / 11:17 am

    I think it depends on the child – but around 10/11 sounds about right.

  296. Jo Carroll
    19 December 2016 / 11:28 am

    I really believe that the earlier you discuss it the better – as your child will grow up more confident that they can take care of themselves properly, that every single person in the world has the same hygene issues to deal with and that it is not a topic to be scared about talking about. After all as parents we spend years changing their nappies talking to them about how it must be done…so we should continue that openess for a lifetime.

  297. EJ Dunn
    19 December 2016 / 11:31 am

    I think the discussions should be different based on their age. Discussions should be open from any age (when they start to ask questions) but I would actively start discussions from around 8 or 9.

  298. Shannon Mostert
    19 December 2016 / 11:31 am

    I think it’s important to discuss from an early age at appropriate levels. I think about 11 is a good time to to have a deep conversation as by then they are starting to go through body changes. When my kids ask questions I always answer honestly at the correct level as I want them to be ab,e to tell me things when they are older.

  299. mrs claire sen
    19 December 2016 / 11:33 am

    I would say around the age of 12. It’s important to be open about things like this so they feel nothing’s taboo!

  300. jane
    19 December 2016 / 11:35 am

    Early as possible as they are going to be asking questions.

  301. Tricia Cowell
    19 December 2016 / 11:41 am

    I think as a parent you know your child, and whether or not they are ready to discuss. Go by your instincts, there is no set age, all children are different.

  302. Ian Campbell
    19 December 2016 / 11:49 am

    Age 12. By then their perceptions of the world have started to develop, and you can simplify certain aspects of the discussion if necessary, to get the points across :)

  303. Hannah
    19 December 2016 / 11:49 am

    I don’t think there is a magic number – I think it’s helpful from infancy to make them feel they can talk about their intimate health and not be embarrassed to ask any questions. Getting the balance between understanding privacy in front of strangers and others, and yet not feeling there’s anything wrong or dirty. Then as they grow up just follow their lead with their questions and making sure that puberty is raised naturally before they reach a point of change.

  304. Maggie Osborn
    19 December 2016 / 11:59 am

    Gradually introduce the subject from 5 onwards, long before puberty. They’ll hear things from kids at school which might be confusing.

  305. 19 December 2016 / 12:21 pm

    I think it depends on the child but around 9 – 10

  306. Oksana Fitzgerald
    19 December 2016 / 12:32 pm

    10 years old

  307. Jill Fairbanks
    19 December 2016 / 12:39 pm

    I would suggest around pre comprehensive/high school for the intimate stuff

  308. natalee gosiewski
    19 December 2016 / 12:56 pm

    it depends on the child my daughters nan and great uncle have had breast cancer so she was 5 when she asked questions i regularly talk to her while checking my self daily

  309. John Ettery
    19 December 2016 / 1:30 pm

    if the child asks then you should give them an answer, relevant to their age, being honest and open with them is alway the best policy

  310. Kaye M
    19 December 2016 / 1:38 pm

    I think before going to secondary school around age 10/11.

  311. Emma Hedges
    19 December 2016 / 1:41 pm

    I started my periods quite young so I needed to know by 11 years old but if I’d have found out much sooner than this I think I would have dreaded it!

  312. Natalie White
    19 December 2016 / 2:00 pm

    About 10 years old :)

  313. Tasha Hamilton
    19 December 2016 / 2:03 pm

    10-11 just before they hit puberty

  314. samantha buntain
    19 December 2016 / 2:39 pm

    i would say between 10-12 as thats the age i learned at and its an appropriate age

  315. Denise McDowell
    19 December 2016 / 2:57 pm

    11-12 seems about right to me

  316. Mel Turner
    19 December 2016 / 3:13 pm

    As soon as they start asking its better to be open

  317. Dawn F
    19 December 2016 / 3:24 pm

    I think ten is a good age these days to start talking about these things.

  318. Elizabeth T
    19 December 2016 / 3:35 pm

    As soon as they start asking (varied with each of my children). Easier on everyone.

  319. James Travis
    19 December 2016 / 3:58 pm

    Depends on their maturity

  320. Hayley Davies
    19 December 2016 / 3:59 pm

    I would say 10/11

  321. Karen R
    19 December 2016 / 4:08 pm

    I tend to be as open as I can be and talk about issues that come up in an age appropriate way – to me it’s an ongoing dialogue

  322. nicola ithell
    19 December 2016 / 4:08 pm

    I think the appropriate age is around 10 because they also have a health lesson in school and I would rather them know before they go into secondary school where some facts are wrong when talking to their peers. If they ask before hand I think you should be as honest as possible for their age.

  323. Abbie steer
    19 December 2016 / 4:14 pm

    I had a chat with my daughter when she was 12. And she knows she can ask me anything.

  324. MICHELLE Stewart
    19 December 2016 / 4:30 pm

    I would say 11

  325. Lorraine Langham
    19 December 2016 / 4:34 pm

    I think it is important to be open and have always tried to answer any questions my children ask in an age appropriate way. By 9 or 10 they were becoming aware of some friends going through puberty so we had more in depth discussions then.

  326. alix smith
    19 December 2016 / 4:38 pm

    I reckon around 8 or 9 just before the body starts to change. It’s such an important talk to have so that things aren’t scary.

  327. karen Howden
    19 December 2016 / 4:47 pm

    I have always answered any questions they had asked me, depending on the age is how much detail I went into but I never told these stories of being found under a gooseberry bush etc. We never have secrets and I believe that secrets are a bad thing. Its worked for me

  328. Caroline Bourne
    19 December 2016 / 4:52 pm

    Before they start secondary school

  329. Patricia Avery
    19 December 2016 / 4:56 pm

    I don’t think there are any hard and fast rules it depends on your child and you are the one who knows the best to decide what and when :)

  330. Carole E
    19 December 2016 / 5:06 pm

    When they start asking questions as they all mature at different rates and it’s more natural then.

  331. sue mcdermott
    19 December 2016 / 5:45 pm

    I think 10 is a good age, they’re starting to understand things a bit by then

  332. Robert Dittrich
    19 December 2016 / 6:08 pm

    As soon as they are old enough to start using the toilet on their own. They are not embarrassed at that age and it’s just normal and natural, not awkward like it is when they are older!

  333. Sheena Read
    19 December 2016 / 6:14 pm

    Children are developing much younger these days but I think not before the age of 10 years.

  334. Karen Dixon
    19 December 2016 / 6:14 pm

    As early as possible explaining why to keep clean especially around period times

  335. Emma
    19 December 2016 / 6:19 pm

    As soon as possible! I believe the more honest and open I can be with my kids, the less body shame they will grow up with!

  336. Sarah Parker
    19 December 2016 / 6:30 pm

    from the start

  337. laura stewart
    19 December 2016 / 6:40 pm

    about the age of 11

  338. Theresa Thomas
    19 December 2016 / 6:40 pm

    I think a good age is between 11 – 13

  339. 19 December 2016 / 6:55 pm

    I think they should grow up knowing they can ask anything and be told the truth about everything.

  340. Dave Edwards
    19 December 2016 / 7:22 pm

    Any time around 10 – 11 years old

  341. chantelle hazelden
    19 December 2016 / 7:28 pm

    I discuss things with both my 8 and 10 year old daughters, I think it very much depends on the individual and how mature they are as to what you think they might actually understand

  342. Joanna Kasznicki
    19 December 2016 / 7:40 pm

    it depends on each childs maturity. they could learn at 9 years old but not understand until they are older.

  343. 19 December 2016 / 7:40 pm

    As a teacher i think its important to start the ground work and use of correct terminology from a young age. Most schools have some form of education from 5 years and up. I think on the more direct route and discussions that 10 is the right age. Just as they’re learning other information before secondary school

  344. 19 December 2016 / 7:42 pm

    I started talking to my daughter about intimate health when she was 10, it just seemed appropriate then.

  345. Louise ryves
    19 December 2016 / 7:48 pm

    I think right from when children learn to talk you can use the names of body parts and teach what is appropriate

  346. Nicola O'Brien
    19 December 2016 / 7:49 pm

    As soon as they’re old enough to understand.

  347. 19 December 2016 / 7:50 pm

    I don’t think there is a right or wrong age as all children develop differently and therefore will be ready for that kind of conversation at different ages. For me I think its just important to know your child and gauge when you feel is best for your child. Always try and make sure though that they know they can come to you if they need to ask questions or talk about anything! xx

  348. Jessica Hutton
    19 December 2016 / 8:10 pm

    I don’t think there is a correct age. It all depends on the child, their maturity, questions ect. Xx

  349. tammi nutting
    19 December 2016 / 8:20 pm

    around 10/11 well i did with my eldest 2

  350. CLARE GORST
    19 December 2016 / 8:22 pm

    I agree with Luce, I think if we make it “normal” to talk about things from day one, then our children won’t be afraid to discuss their worries or concerns or to ask questions.

  351. Keshia Esgate
    19 December 2016 / 8:22 pm

    11

  352. Monika Bascombe
    19 December 2016 / 8:34 pm

    I’ve had a conversation with my son when he was 10 , not in full but in enough detail for his age. I could see he felt uncomfortable by it .
    I think I will start earlier with my daughter and slowly introduce the subject so she seems more comfortable and open to talk .

  353. Mel stanbridge
    19 December 2016 / 8:40 pm

    It depends on the child but probably before secondary school but if they ask questions before answer them as truthfully as you can

  354. sarah rowland
    19 December 2016 / 8:41 pm

    its hard to say as all children develop at different rates so i dont think there is a right or wrong answer to this, i was told at the age of 8-9 what to expect from my body

  355. Sam Parkes
    19 December 2016 / 8:42 pm

    IT all depends on the child when they are ready but would say 10 plus as that’s age I was told about it in school.

  356. Chirag Patel
    19 December 2016 / 8:56 pm

    About 10- 11 years

  357. Steph
    19 December 2016 / 8:56 pm

    I think there are different discussions at different ages, from keeping clean from a young age to answering questions as honestly as you can. Definitely think openness about puberty etc is important and from age 11/12 I spoke to my own children about it.

  358. Lisette Davidson
    19 December 2016 / 9:10 pm

    I was so glad my mum talked to me when I was 10 as I started the very next day! I didn’t know what to do with the big belt thingy she gave me until she told me it was a sanitary belt!! Those were the days…..I was always open with my children and my daughter started early too….its definitely a good idea to breed openness and transparency into all your communications with children, I think!

  359. Carol Phile
    19 December 2016 / 9:15 pm

    I never made any secret of periods. I think it’s good for children to grow up awar that these things happen. They hear stuff at school and get things wrong and gert scared so I introduced the very basics about where babies come from, what boys and girls have downstairs etc from a very young age so there was no drama.

  360. Laura Findlay
    19 December 2016 / 9:20 pm

    From around 10 when their bodies are starting to change although I’m very open with my children and my daughter already knows about periods and she’s 6 xx

  361. 19 December 2016 / 9:29 pm

    My parents never ever spoke to me about anything like that and I don’t want to be like that with my kids. I want them to know from early on what everything is but get into more detail just before puberty starts so that they feel comfortable with changes. They are 4 and 2 now and this is the first I’ve properly thought about it. I may change my mind!

  362. Deborah Mackenzie
    19 December 2016 / 9:34 pm

    I dont think there is a precise age; it is more to do with the child and parents. I believe that some children are more ‘knowing’ than others, but parents know their children and how they will deal with things.
    As a parent with children with disabilities I have never hidden the truth from them, but explained in language that they can understand and accept. It is about educating and not shocking.

  363. Diana
    19 December 2016 / 9:42 pm

    I don’t know. Maybe 12?

  364. Amy Lambert
    19 December 2016 / 9:42 pm

    Before puberty so around 10 years of age however children mature at different ages so as soon as children begin to show interest it should be discussed

  365. 19 December 2016 / 9:48 pm

    I think you should gauge it by the child. what are their interests, have they begun to menstruate etc.. at the earliest appropriate age is my opinion.

  366. Sunita verma
    19 December 2016 / 9:56 pm

    I think its a common sense approach…as kids have different levels of maturity. Its more important to have a good relationship with your child as well as involvement in your childs life and be aware of their journey alot of parents have no idea what their kids are up and end up having issues…that way you will know when the time is right.

  367. angela wilkinson
    19 December 2016 / 10:00 pm

    I would think about 8-9 personally, mainly because of my own experience of not having a clue what was happening to me! I have always Encouraged my girls to be open and come to me about anything.

  368. Hayley biles
    19 December 2016 / 10:03 pm

    Every child is different so I’d say as soon as they are old enough to understand

  369. Natalie Crossan
    19 December 2016 / 10:04 pm

    I think around 10 years old xx

  370. Kat
    19 December 2016 / 10:05 pm

    I think when the child starts to ask questions but if I had to pick then around the age of 10. I hope to have an openess with my child that any thing can be discussed with me.

  371. Ruth Wollerton
    19 December 2016 / 10:12 pm

    I think it depends on the individual child and their needs and questions. I think that as soon as they start to be curious and ask questions or develop , that’s when you need to talk to them. As long as you are open and honest with your child from an early age it should be easy.

  372. Elzbieta Znyk
    19 December 2016 / 10:18 pm

    when my kids start asking, around 10 years.

  373. Joanne Blunt
    19 December 2016 / 10:21 pm

    Around age 10 as this is when they get a talk from the school nurse too.

  374. paula cheadle
    19 December 2016 / 10:23 pm

    I started when they were young, then they have had no problem in talking to me when anything crops up

  375. Kerry Webber
    19 December 2016 / 10:43 pm

    The advice I was given was to just be honest with any genuine questions and don’t fob them off. If they ask a sensitive question, then give them an honest answer. I don’t think there is a correct age, as it will different for every child. Straight talk is best. My son was about 8 or 9 when he started asking the awkward questions. I didn’t want my son to ever feel embarrassed about any topic and he has been able to confide in when when he has problems of a personal nature. It’s our job to prepare our kids for the world!

  376. Lynne OConnor
    19 December 2016 / 10:47 pm

    I think it varies from child to child but starts young in general terms becoming more indepth as the child gets older. The easiest way is to be completely open so that they’ll ask you whenever they have any questions

  377. Adrian Bold
    19 December 2016 / 10:48 pm

    I don’t have any kids but I suppose around 10. I’m sure by that age most kids have been told something from other kids at school etc.

  378. Sarah Mills
    19 December 2016 / 10:49 pm

    as soon a they ask questions as there is no point lieing

  379. Stephanie Patience
    19 December 2016 / 10:57 pm

    As young as possible so it doesn’t become an awkward subject for them later in childhood or in teenage years

  380. Kelly Durkin
    19 December 2016 / 11:10 pm

    I think about 8 years old x

  381. 19 December 2016 / 11:13 pm

    I think it’s not a question of age but is more about level of maturity – you discuss it when they need it and when they are ready.

  382. Tammy Neal
    19 December 2016 / 11:14 pm

    It’s important to learn them good habits, so start as early as you can with the basics.

  383. Maria Hackett
    19 December 2016 / 11:50 pm

    i agree with others, 10 seems ok to me, just before going in to high school.

  384. Tamsin Dean
    19 December 2016 / 11:52 pm

    From about 8 yars old as that is when they want to start taking care of themselves like showers but it depends on the child