Just Do Christmas Your Way


It’s that time of year again where all the Instagram perfect images of perfectly decorated houses and trees appear, people spending a small fortune visiting ten different Santas and some other people wondering if they’re a bad parent for not doing the same.


Just Do Christmas You Way - title page with a snowman and snowflakes on


Back when I was a child – not a thousand years ago despite what my children say – you had no idea what anyone else did or had for Christmas until you went back to school and spoke to them. Usually by then we’d all forgotten or couldn’t be bothered to talk about it and our parents rarely had a clue what other parents were up to unless they were close friends.


There was a lot less pressure and comparing etc than there is now thanks to social media. I want to say it was a simpler time, but crikey that makes me sound old ha!


At the moment I keep seeing people saying to others ‘oh I wish my tree was as pretty as yours’ or ‘I’m feeling guilty because we don’t have an elf’ etc etc continue until infinity… or at least Boxing Day.


Christmas to me though is all about family and spending quality time together, we’ve always made our own mini traditions – like playing games on Christmas Eve, the boys getting to open one present before bed and when they were smaller new pyjamas. The small things make our Christmas how we want it to be. Also our tree is so mismatched, slightly wonky and loads of the decorations were made by the boys – I love our tree.


Our Christmas tree - close up of a home made star decoration


Equally there is absolutely nothing wrong with going all out if you want to and can afford to, but don’t feel that just because Sandra down the road took her children to Lapland, has five trees in her house, saw ten Santas with her children all in one day and didn’t let her kids touch any of the trees for fear of bauble misalignment, that you HAVE to do the same or that your family is somehow lacking because you don’t seem to be having the same Instagram perfect festive season.


Plus seriously nothing is ever as perfect as it looks on Instagram and whether your Christmas is Instagram or Pinterest perfect or not it’s YOUR Christmas and what’s the point if you’re so stressed trying to make it perfect that you end up not enjoying it?!


Don’t give in to comparing or feeling the pressure, just crack open that tub of Quality Street or Celebrations stick a crimbo film on and relax.


Stevie x

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  1. 14 December 2018 / 10:17 am

    I love this post and couldn’t agree more! I’ve spent years worrying I’m not doing enough, taking the girls out enough etc but this year I’m really enjoying doing our own thing. I’ve realised staying home and trashing the living room with Christmas crafts, cheap or homemade decorations and watching films is ok as long as we are enjoying ourselves. Our tree is the same as yours, mismatched and full of bits we have made and I wouldn’t have it any other way either x

    • 14 December 2018 / 10:31 am

      There’s a quote about comparison being the thief of joy and it is so right. I think we’re all much happier when we live in our own little bubble and do things our own way :) It’s whatever works for your won little family I reckon :) xx

  2. 14 December 2018 / 10:21 am

    Like you, our Christmas isn’t as glamouris as some other folk I know. This year something clicked and I don’t know if it’s because my eldest is older or because I’ve been looking into the whole minimalist concept. Whatever it is, I’m glad that it happened although we were never ones to get into debt just for the sake of presents under the tree and social media pictures. Anyway, I feel memories are so very important and we have gone for more experience type gifts for the kids and it feels great. Like you, we have the tradition of PJ’s and being able to open a gift in Christmas Eve. I grew up with that tradition and it makes me feel nostalgic.
    I like the lead up as we are planning cinema and panto trips, and other things which will last into the year. Love your post, I wrote about what our family experience will be as well. Nice to see like minded people!

    • 14 December 2018 / 10:33 am

      We were always allowed to open one present before bed on Christmas Eve too, I think it was partly bribery to get us all ready for bed ha! Memories are definitely the most important thing to me and just having fun rather than stressing or comparing :)

      Stevie x

  3. 14 December 2018 / 10:51 am

    Very well said!
    Last year I stressed myself out so much trying to make everything perfect and I ended up miserable and anxious. This year I have stopped trying has hard and despite a few stressy moments I am enjoying the run up to Christmas x

    • 14 December 2018 / 10:27 pm

      Thanks Kim, I think we can all get caught up in it if we aren’t careful and worry way too much about pleasing everyone instead of actually enjoying it all ourselves :)

      Stevie x

  4. 14 December 2018 / 8:21 pm

    It’s quite sad to think that Christmas has become such a competition and a keeping up with the Jones’. Christmas is about family, hold them close and eat more chocolate

    • 14 December 2018 / 10:27 pm

      It really is and that is exactly how I think of Christmas, family and food ha! x

  5. 15 December 2018 / 3:44 am

    But my wife insists I do it her way. I better do it her way. Just saying.

  6. 16 December 2018 / 4:39 pm

    All of THIS !!!! I totally agree, and that you should never compare your Christmas to somebody elses as we all do things differently. Just relax and eat all of the chocolate, well that’s what I will be planning to do anyway x

  7. 23 December 2018 / 6:35 pm

    Well said. I’ve stopped buying the baby magazines as I was overwhelmed by how many different ways there were to celebrate Christmas. What truly matters is discovering what it means to you and doing your thing.