Life Update – July 2016

I was sat for ages trying to think of a title for this post, but since it’s a random ramble I thought ‘Life Update’ was accurate enough.

 

Life Update

 

So today I’m a little bit emotional. I am so proud of both of my boys, they really are turning out to be pretty amazing young men and fabulous human beings.

 

Obviously the human being bit didn’t take any work, but I like to think that the men they look to be becoming in the future is down at least partly to the way Si and I bring them up. Actually I gave birth to them, so I guess I can claim credit for the human being part too…

 

Anyway today is especially emotional as not only has my eldest son turned 12, but his little brother has also headed off on school camp for five days. FIVE days, to me this seems like a very long time.

 

As a parent I have the mix of being oh so proud that my ‘baby’ has the confidence to go off to camp on his own, and the eek feeling of I have never been away from either of them for so long.

 

As parents we want to instil in them the confidence to go off in to the world and do their own thing, to feel secure enough to have that willingness to be independent. So I have put a smile on my face for the last week and only mentioned a brief I’ll miss you when I dropped him off.

 

In classic Harley style, he made me kiss him goodbye somewhere where his friends wouldn’t spot us, which did make me laugh. It felt weird though to come home and know that I wouldn’t see him until Friday.

 

I’m so glad his brother will be home after school today, as even though I am used to an empty house when they’re both at school, it feels a lot emptier today. 

 

He will be having a whale of a time though camping in a tent, canoeing, having a Viking reenactment (the teachers must be slightly mad as that sounds like chaos in the making) and generally feeling that much more grown up being away from home.

 

I suspect I will have  a huge pile of washing to do when he comes home again. Luckily they are taking them swimming on the way back, so at least he shouldn’t smell too much like he’s just camped for five days with other boys and smelly trainers all in a small space.

 

I really do feel it is so important for children to develop that sense of independence and to have a taste of what it is like without their parents supervising them all the time. Eventually these mini people will fly the nest and they – and we – need to be able to cope with that. I suspect I will find it harder than they will, and that really is how it should be.

 

With my eldest turning 12 on the same day, it was always going to be a bit emotional for me. I’m not emotional in the sense of wishing they could stay this age for ever – at times I may fleetingly wish this, until the tween hormones give us a day of fun…. I feel emotional because I feel so very proud of these not so mini men of mine.

 

Their growing confidence, their kindness to others, the way they look after each other at times and me, their absolutely cheeky sense of humours. All of this and more I am proud of.

 

Days like today really bring it home to me just how lucky I am, I may not be the richest woman alive – I usually check my bank with crossed fingers and vain hopes of a mystery benefactor. I may not be ‘perfect’ in any way sense or form, but I am ridiculously lucky.

 

As cheesy as it sounds (seriously even I feel a bit icky saying it) my little family and my home is full of love and laughter. Regardless of anything else we cope with, that to me is everything I need.

 

Stevie 

 

**I am honestly not about to google to see how dangerous canoes can be in the hands of 10 year olds**

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31 Comments

  1. 11 July 2016 / 4:19 pm

    Yep, cheesy as anything you soft fool! But I totally get where you’re coming from, it sounds like you’re right to be proud of them, they sound like such lovely boys who adore their mum even if they’re not willing to admit it in front of their friends!
    Nat.x

  2. Julie C
    11 July 2016 / 5:44 pm

    my home is full of love and laughter….. says it all x

  3. 11 July 2016 / 6:45 pm

    That’s lovely Stevie. Parenting is a process of slowly letting go of your children bit by bit isn’t it? They sound like gorgeous boys you have there x

  4. 11 July 2016 / 7:43 pm

    Oh it sounds like he is going to have a fab time camping. My husband’s eldest is 13 and he is currently camping with Scouts for the week in Norway – I can’t wait to hear all about it when he gets back!
    Love the last paragraph!

  5. 12 July 2016 / 12:18 am

    Awww I hope they enjoy their time away and that you find a way of dealing with it (I know I couldnt!)

  6. 12 July 2016 / 10:44 am

    Your boys are brilliant Stevie! I’m sure Harley is going to fab (and i bet you did google about the dangers of canoes, right!?). Hope fin enjoyed his dominos xxx

  7. 12 July 2016 / 4:19 pm

    Sounds like he will be having a great time. It’s all part of growing up and not wanting to it show it in front of their friends. They will get through this phase and be back to cuddling you in front of people before you know it X

  8. Lizzie Somerset
    13 July 2016 / 12:46 pm

    I think you can definitely take some credit for the fine humans your children are! I think it’s 50/50 nature over nurture. We guide and hope they choose the right path. Sounds like lots of fun, I remember camping as a kid I loved it! Not so much now though!! Lizzie xo

  9. 15 July 2016 / 8:11 am

    Oh I totally sympathise with these feelings – my post today is along very similar lines – you may not want to read today – sorry! It’s a different emotion being a mummy to a boy as they are growing into men – I feel the same but it’s a wonderful gift to have a son and I feel so proud to watch my boy grow – my mantra being to raise him as a gentleman and after the news that is breaking this morning this makes me so tearful as if only more boys were raised to be gentlemen … #PickNMix

  10. 15 July 2016 / 9:03 am

    Wow, amazing the things kids have the confidence to do. Hope he had a great time!

  11. 15 July 2016 / 9:45 am

    Ah I bet he’s having the time of his life! And well done for raising two lovely young lads x #picknmix

  12. luce
    15 July 2016 / 10:24 am

    aw! I hope camp goes well, I bet he will be full of stories and excitement when he gets back (washing and all!) Happy Birthday to your eldest too :-) #PicknMix

  13. 15 July 2016 / 10:26 am

    My eldest has a trip coming up in October, also for 5 days! I can’t believe quite how fast they all seem to grow up! Sounds like you have an awesome little family Stevie. Sarah #PicknMix

  14. 15 July 2016 / 11:42 am

    Stevie you are right he will have had a fabulous time. He will come back 6ft tall, brimming with confidence and a newly acquired sense of independence. My daughter returned from her week away to France last week and I, like you, felt sad at her being away but knew she would be having a whale of time. She did of course and was so grateful that we had let her go. These experiences away from home really help to shape them. Have a great weekend washing! #PickNMix

  15. 15 July 2016 / 12:39 pm

    Five days is a long time! Not sure how I’d feel about that! #picknmix

  16. 15 July 2016 / 12:51 pm

    It’s not icky at all Stevie. I think it’s lovely to appreciate all you have. Family is so important.

    Sally @ Life Loving

  17. 15 July 2016 / 1:24 pm

    Aw lovely.. I think all of us feels like this at different points, those milestones will keep on coming won’t they!

  18. The Tale of Mummyhood
    15 July 2016 / 2:17 pm

    Oh wow, five days! My two are still very young so I cannot imagine them being away from us for so long. I hope he had a fabulous time!

    #picknmix

  19. 15 July 2016 / 2:20 pm

    What a gorgeous post and at least your son still wants mummy kisses even if in secret. One of ylny friends eldest just element on her first residential trips too and whilst I joke I’ll be glad for a weeks peace when it’s our turn in sure I’ll miss her loads!! #picknmix

  20. 15 July 2016 / 2:55 pm

    Aww I think all mummies will know exactly how you are feeling right now. We call it happy sad in our house (I was happy sad, leaky-eyed yesterday reading Spud’s report) but isn’t it a nice reason to feel emotional – because you are proud! It’s also nice to know you are doing a good job so high-five to that!! I bet Harley will be having a whale of a time making lots of memories, he’ll soon be back where he belongs – have a lovely weekend with birthday boy! x #picknmix

  21. 15 July 2016 / 4:31 pm

    It’s the small things that matter. Our children growing up is huge though! My boy is 10 and he only has one more year in primary school, I just want to press the pause button or even rewind back to about age 6 (I loved 6). I hope Harley has a fab time on his trip. Tor xx #picknmix

  22. 15 July 2016 / 8:27 pm

    Eeek five days, I could cry just thinking about my babies going away for the first time on their own! My eldest was 12 in april and I was hugely emotional thinking how next year he will be a teenager and then there is no denying that he is all grown up. I cry at anything these days when it comes to the kids, every day I choke up over the fact that they no longer need me in the same way. It’s so hard letting go!!! #picknmix

  23. 2travellingtots
    15 July 2016 / 10:02 pm

    They sound like lovely boys! I can’t ever imagine mine being old enough to go away to camp! They are only 3 and 10 months though! Not that I don’t sometimes wish for a bit of peace and quiet….just 10 minutes would be lovely…

  24. Christina
    16 July 2016 / 9:16 am

    I don’t think I could cope away from my little one for 5 days. I have minor separation anxiety from her and hate even going out without her – I feel like part of me is missing. I wonder if i’ll still be saying that in ten years time?? he he he! They grow up so quickly don’t they?! I try and tell my clients how important it is to cherish these moments as the time just seems to fly by, but I don’t think that anyone pays much attention to my ramblings!!! Your son will come back absolutely full of the joys of life, but i bet you anything that he’s missed you loads and you’ll get a great big massive cuddle and kiss once he’s back xxx

  25. 16 July 2016 / 2:27 pm

    Lovely post Stevie. I struggle when they girls go on a play date for a couple of hours so goodness knows what I’ll be like when they go away for a few days!! #PicknMix

  26. 16 July 2016 / 8:09 pm

    Aw this is lovely. My stepson is 12 as well and recently he went on a week long school trip…it’s such an odd feeling but fantastic to see his independence develop over the last year, starting secondary school. It’s the letting go gradually that’s hard but sounds like you’re doing fab x #picknmix

  27. 16 July 2016 / 9:41 pm

    Gosh 5 days must feel like a lifetime xxx Twin 1 & 2 will be off for 3 days next year in Yr6- double whammy!! That will feel so not-normal! #picknmix

  28. 17 July 2016 / 10:47 am

    As hard as it may have been for you I bet he had a whale of time on his trip away. I can’t imagine being apart from my boys for that amount of time either! #PicknMix

  29. 17 July 2016 / 2:13 pm

    It can be a real kick to realize that our kids are starting to need us a lot less. Good for you for raising such stron, independent lads. They will need you for a lot longer yet. #picnmix

  30. 21 July 2016 / 7:55 pm

    It’s such a worry being a mum isn’t it? Kyle went on his first trip recently just for 1 night though and although I’m used to him being at his dad’s it’s totally different. I bet he had an amazing time! Xx