Oversharing Online

 

I have seen so many comments on social media about bloggers oversharing about their family lives and being awful for showing photos of their children online all the time.

 

Social Media over sharing

 

Now personally I don’t share many photos of my children online at all, that’s my personal preference and the way that they prefer it. They’re 12 and almost 14, it’ll soon be vaguely ‘un-cool’ to be seen with me in public, let alone be plastered all over my social media for my followers to look at.

 

That’s not the only reason I don’t share photos or videos of them online very often especially not these days. It’s also because I’ve experienced the negative side of social media myself, I’ve been trolled on YouTube for not looking ‘perfect’ for having a double chin at times and for my eyebrows not being big enough. All things that have kept me awake at night – not. I can take the criticism and nasty comments, I’m an adult.

 

I personally blog because I love to write, I like to raise awareness of Type 1 Diabetes where I can, I love Cornwall and like to share my photos and heck I can hardly deny loving the ‘perks’ of blogging (Universal Studios I am looking at you right now) and the fact that I get paid to write and share my thoughts online. With the perks come the downside like I said, the trolls, the angry people online who spend their lives looking for something or someone to be angry about.

 

By writing my blog I put myself in front of these people, I take that risk of mean words and personal comments. If the trolls thought I had a double chin two years ago, they’d have a field day looking at the triple cheesy chips induced one I currently sport at the wrong angles ha!

 

What I don’t do is constantly also place my children in front of these people, they do appear on my feeds and on my blog at times, but not often and if they do I have already asked their consent and I am sure that I’m not doing or writing anything that could lead to them being bullied. If my blog threatened my children’s happiness and risked them being bullied or trolled online, then I would delete it in a second. It’s my job as a parent to protect them.

 

In the same respect though, bloggers who share photos and posts about their children online a lot of the time are making their own considered decisions about doing so. No-one parents in the same way and no-one has the exact opinions on what is oversharing, what’s okay and what’s not. Just because I don’t want my children online too much, doesn’t mean that everyone else should feel the same or that I would ever judge them for doing so.

 

Also doesn’t pretty much everyone ‘overshare’ online these days? Some of the most personal things I see about relationship breakdowns, children’s personal health issues etc etc etc that I see are actually on non blogger’s personal Facebook pages and public Instagram and Twitter accounts. I think people forget that when they add hashtags to their Instagram posts, they open them up to being seen by a much wider audience.

 

People who added me as a Facebook friend after meeting me once and sometimes people who I can’t remember who they are and how we became online friends – I see every detail of their lives played out online. I see photos showing which school their children go to and public arguments between them and their partner.

 

I see people comment on public Facebook posts telling very personal stories or sharing photos of their children in reply to people. Is this much different to bloggers who share images of their photos and talk about their lives online? Yes their audiences tend to be much bigger, but what they are sharing isn’t usually much different and is usually much ‘tamer’.

 

In fact some of the people I have recently seen criticising bloggers for putting their children in the public eye so much, have been people with public accounts on social media with a lot of photos of their own children on. Photos that can be picked up by search engines in some cases when people search for specific words on Google images, which I suspect the parents are unaware of. I’m not talking about specific people on Google images here, I haven’t searched for them myself ha! Just know that if you upload photos to social media and it isn’t to a private account, then the chances are those images are searchable.

 

At what point does sharing snapshots and details of your family and personal life become oversharing, where do we all need to draw the line? I’ve actually been pondering a lot of these questions recently, what are your thoughts on it all? I’m genuinely interested to hear.

 

Is ‘oversharing’ just becoming the norm do you think with the huge growth of social media and if so is it really so bad that many bloggers share so much about their lives?

 

Stevie x

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9 Comments

  1. 1 April 2018 / 9:25 am

    This is really interesting Stevie and one I’ve been thinking about myself. I agree with you though, like parenting, everyone does things differently. I chose to have photos of my children on the blog and they know and have enjoyed the perks of this with review toys and days out etc.

    They’re 5 and 7 now and I know as they grow up there will come a time where they might not want photos of them online and that’s absolutely fine. I’d totally respect that but until then I’ll be carrying on sharing photos of them because it’s something I love documenting. xx

    • 1 April 2018 / 12:38 pm

      Exactly Maria you do what feels right for you :) Most of the people I see online saying that bloggers overshare don’t seem to realise that their own profiles have countless photos of their children visible to everyone without any restrictions and not being bloggers they haven’t thought as much to themselves about what is okay to share and not to share, so the photos are more often more embarrassing for the child than a bloggers’ photos etc would be. It’s a tricky one though, I’m not comfortable personally with sharing too much myself, but the my boys are older… but which also means they now share their own photos of themselves on social media albeit on private accounts. The World has changed so much in a relatively short space of time with social media hasn’t it?! :) xx

  2. 2 April 2018 / 2:52 am

    I am sure i overshare, but then again my sons are 37 and 39 so they can take care of themselves.

    I have a blog for me. I figure if others want to read it that is great, I like that, if not well that is OK as well. Sheryl asks I not share things about her, but then again she edits for me so whatever goes up she has approved. As for me? Heck I am 60. Do not work, and care little who I inflict myself on. Over sharing? Likely, but worry about it? Naw not so much, here in Indiana we have way more important things to work out. Like how our milk cows an tell time so they do not lie day light savings time or if we cna sell beer on Sunday. Now those are problems for sure. LOL

  3. Susan B
    2 April 2018 / 4:07 pm

    An interesting post that provides food for thought. Thank you.

  4. 4 April 2018 / 3:55 am

    I couldn’t agree more with your thinking on this – and I limit how much I share too – on my blog AND on my personal accounts.

    But just for the record, your eyebrows and chin are more than perfectly fine! Some people!! x

    • 4 April 2018 / 7:40 am

      Ha thank you Mim, the scariest part is the trolls I’ve encountered have mostly been tweens or teens! xx

  5. 5 April 2018 / 3:41 pm

    I enjoyed this. My son is 1, and while I share photos of him on my own social media, I have a rule that his face will not be used on my blog. That may change when he’s old enough to give consent.

    • 5 April 2018 / 3:55 pm

      I definitely think we all need to do what we feel comfortable with and if we aren’t comfortable with sharing images, then be really aware of who can actually see our social posts :)

      Stevie x

  6. 8 April 2018 / 2:05 pm

    I am a new blogger and For me this is a very good lesson to learn. Thank you you for sharing

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