Before my son was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes in 2009, I really did not know a lot about diabetes, or even really the fact that there was more than one type. I have since come across people who know even less than I did … but often think they know more.
For my blog today I have comprised a small list of some of the worst or just purely most annoying comments I have heard people make, or I have come across since diagnosis. Feel free to email or comment on the blog to tell me any that annoy you as well, or more for me to add! Anyway here goes….
- He’s diabetic, so does he need to go on a diet? ….um no my son was underweight at diagnosis, and loses all his body weight whenever he is ill, and Type 1 has NOTHING to do with lifestyle. No one knows WHY it happens.
- Oh it’s only diabetes that’s good…. anyone who lives with a type 1 person knows its never ONLY diabetes. It affects a ridiculously large amount of things, and makes my son prone to all sorts of other lovely things. Trivialising Type 1 will never earn you love from a type 1 parent! Google type 1 diabetes complications, and you will see why.
- Is it your fault because you fed him rubbish food… yes someone really did ask me this, a family member no less! My response was not to talk to them for several days…very much the worst thing that you could ever say to a parent whose son had almost died the day before prior to being diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes.
- I know how he feels, I have to take tablets for my diabetes…said to me by a type 2 holding a beer can, and an even bigger beer belly (before anyone gets annoyed at this I am not type casting and am aware not all type 2’s are self inflicted). Um…no you do not know how he feels, you have to take tablets, and clearly don’t care about your health, whereas he has 4 injections a day every day for the rest of his life to look forward to, not to mention the 6 plus times he as to prick his finger every day, and he would do anything to be more healthy …
- So he can’t eat sugar then. In moderation my son can eat anything, the same as anyone else, he just sometimes won’t feel great if he over does it until his insulin kicks in (it works more slowly than your own body’s insulin). Also if my son ate no sugar he would spend a lot more time having low blood sugar, he especially needs a sugar boost before sports.
- News reports on curing diabetes, which don’t mention the fact that its for Type 2 diabetes and would be damaging to a type 1. False hope is not my favourite bedfellow I must say!!
- Parents of classmates that invite the whole class to a party only excluding the worst behaved child, and my son, even when he is friends with the child. Seriously there is NO reason why children with Type 1 Diabetes can not attend parties, and the last thing that they need is to be made to feel different to others.
- People stating when my child can hear that they will cure diabetes soon. My son does not need false hope, or to think he will be cured next week. He needs to accept that this could be for life regardless of what hope there may be. Harsh as that may sound, false hope would stop him accepting his condition. He needs to look after himself to avoid long term complications, which he might not be bothered to do if he feels his cure is round the corner.