Sleep – Why Everyone Hates Me

 

My sleep deprived parent friends try not to give me dirty looks when I yawn because I had to get up at 7.30am and had to drag my children out of bed for the school run. They desperately try not to grimace and narrow their eyes at me, when they pop over at 9am on a weekend, and my children are still sleeping, and I explain this is the norm!

 

My children are good sleepers, they have been since they were around 7  and 8 weeks old, and I regularly had to wake them at 10am as babies so that we could ‘start the day’. I apologise now to sleep deprived parents reading this, I do feel your pain….those 7 weeks or so were really hard. I suspect you hate me a little bit too now!

 

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I’m not sure why my children have always slept so well, although a couple of pointers of things I DID do may help some of you. I never crept around when they were asleep as babies, and they got used to sleeping whilst I was hoovering or doing other noisy activities.

 

I also let them settle themselves. I had to really resist the temptation to run in when they whimpered or cried, but often if I waited those 30 seconds longer, they settled themselves back to sleep, rather than being woken up properly by my noisy entrance to their rooms.

 

When they were small, we also had a bath, snuggle and story routine before bed, which made them suitably sleepy, and which was also my favourite time of the day. There really is nothing quite like cuddling sleepy little mini men as they gaze up at you as if you are the centre of their universe. I miss the days when they fitted on my lap without completely crushing me.

 

I do wonder though, whether the main cause of how well my children sleep is genetic! My Mum is a ridiculously heavy sleeper, who was and is impossible to wake for anything! She has been known to sleep through smoke alarms, luckily false alarm ones.

 

My Mum also used to sleep walk when she was younger, and I would share with you some of the bizarre things that she used to do, but since she reads my blog I had better not as I don’t want to be on her naughty list!

 

Both of my sons are ridiculously heavy sleepers. An example of just how heavy, is that when my eldest son (who is diabetic) was really ill a couple of years ago, his brother didn’t wake at all.

 

He didn’t wake whilst his brother threw up in a bucket beside his bed, he didn’t wake when Si knocked over a huge box of Lego in the room, he didn’t wake whilst I was on the phone to an emergency nurse and doctor, and I even had to wake him by shaking him when the paramedics were in the house, to tell him that he had to stay with Si’s parents whilst we went off in the ambulance with his brother.

 

I check my eldest son’s blood glucose level at night before I go to bed, and considering this involves pricking his finger for blood to test, he doesn’t stir at all. As a toddler he used to fall asleep standing up with his head resting on the sofa, which although was ridiculously cute, wasn’t quite so good when he half woke up and landed on his bum.

 

Like my mother, both my boys sleep walk on occasion, and I have had some ridiculous conversations with both of them when they have clearly not been awake, and they don’t remember it at all when they wake up.

 

This is one of the downsides to them being such heavy sleepers though, as although at times cute, sometimes the sleepwalking is really not so cute, such as the sleep / vomit fiasco. My youngest was really ill and I woke up to find him being sick in the bathroom, I cleaned him and the bathroom up, and the landing where he’d not quite made it, and started to say goodnight to him.

 

He then piped up to ask if I had cleaned up downstairs, to which I queried why on earth he had been downstairs. He was under the impression that he must have gone to sleep downstairs that night, as that was where he had woken up. I went downstairs….it really was not pretty! He had slept walk his way into virtually every room leaving a sicky trail behind him, and had barely missed a wall, a stair or a carpet…by the way I am really sorry if you decided to read this at lunchtime!

 

Like my Mum and my boys, I also am a really heavy sleeper and I have in the past slept through huge storms, loud arguments between our neighbours that involved a lot of banging, and various other noisy events that would disturb ‘normal’ people!

 

Even Si hates me a little bit for my heavy sleeping ways! He, like his own Mum, is a very light sleeper, and is driven slightly mad with jealousy at how I can sleep through all manner of disturbances that wake him.

 

This is especially true because not only am I a heavy sleeper, I sometimes talk in my sleep, grind my teeth in my sleep when stressed, and also once woke him to accuse him of having an affair with Sam Bailey (x factor). He was though more annoyed with the Sam Bailey incident that it wasn’t Cheryl Cole, and informed me he was going back to sleep to dream it ‘properly’ for me, although of course he couldn’t get back to sleep, and I was asleep within seconds…

 

When my back problems were at their worst, and I was waking two or three times in the night in pain, I swear I saw him try to hide a small half  smile of satisfaction, that I now knew his pain of sleep deprivation. However, I now sleep as heavily as ever, and he doesn’t…

 

We have been discussing adding to our family, and to be honest my biggest worry with this is not how will my old lady back cope with pregnancy after all these years, but more what if they get his sleep genes?!!!

 

 

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23 Comments

  1. Jessamine Townsend
    24 January 2015 / 6:59 pm

    You’ve got to share some of those stories about Mum sometime! She never told Miranda and I that she sleepwalked! I don’t think she does nowadays though.

    Your extremely amused sisters,
    Miranda and Jezz

    • 24 January 2015 / 7:27 pm

      Lol I will tell you when you are down next! Which will be soon I hope! Miss you xx

    • Ellen Couch
      25 January 2015 / 1:14 am

      ‘scuse me you lot!!!! I’m sure my embarrassing story vault is muuuuuuch more full than yours lol xxx

  2. Sophie Perry
    25 January 2015 / 9:11 pm

    Hello!

    I’ve nominated you for a Liebster Award!! Check out the post on my blog for how you can do the tag post :) Sorry if you’ve already been tagged!

    xxx

    • 25 January 2015 / 11:51 pm

      I have twice! But thank you anyway lovely :) x

  3. 29 January 2015 / 3:09 pm

    Wow you really are deep sleepers! My daughter was a terrible sleeper for a long time and now usually sleeps through (she’s 3). I am a TERRIBLE sleeper and have been for a long time even when I am exhausted. So I am very jealous of you! I don’t hate you though. Not much anyway ;) xx #brillblogposts

    • 29 January 2015 / 5:10 pm

      I’m just hoping if we do have a third child they’re a good sleeper too, if not that’ll definitely take some getting used to!! X

  4. 30 January 2015 / 9:50 am

    I love this! I also have a brilliant sleeper (thank God) but the first 10 weeks were AWFUL and I’m not looking forward to the sleep deprivation with a newborn one bit. I just hope the next one likes their sleep as much as the first! Mim @ mamamim.com #brilliantblogposts

    • 30 January 2015 / 12:08 pm

      Crossed fingers, toes and eyes! ;) x

  5. Merlinda Little ( @pixiedusk)
    30 January 2015 / 11:53 am

    Sleep is really important so I think that it is a gift that you have heavy sleepers! I wish I can sleep better, I always wake up in the middle of the night. My son too. He has got night terrors always and this makes his sleep erratic. #brilliantblogposts

  6. 30 January 2015 / 2:41 pm

    We’ve also been pretty lucky.
    Both our kids have been in their own rooms from very young (About 8 weeks). From them snoring or consistantly checking them in their basket em and the Mrs was not sleeping well so we made the switch.
    Routine (Similar to yours) helps alot. Not possible for eveyone but it helped us alot.
    Great Post
    L
    Linking up from #brilliantblogposts

    • 30 January 2015 / 4:12 pm

      Same here, I definitely think putting them in their own rooms quite early helps….a big step though! I think whatever routine you follow helps, as if it’s the same everytime before bed, then they know what to expect! :)

  7. HonestMum
    31 January 2015 / 8:26 am

    Wow amazing you are such deep sleepers, wish my kids were, I’m not though so they’ve taken after me! Such a gorgeous post-beautiful tender words and you lady, looked stunning pregnant. Thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts x

  8. 1 February 2015 / 8:42 am

    Mine are pretty good sleepers but nothing like this! Your local friends must be incredibly envious when they see you! #brilliantblogposts

    • 1 February 2015 / 9:24 am

      They definitely are! It’s very rare that my children are a wake before me luckily :) x

  9. 1 February 2015 / 6:33 pm

    Awe i don’t hate you for your luck with the little ones! :)

    Agent M was an ok sleeper as a baby but I’ve always been a light sleeper so any noise he made in his sleep, i was awake right away.

    He did go through a rough bedtime phase as a toddler. Was exhausted but didn’t wanna go to sleep. He would cry and cry but i just left him to self sooth (while i sat outside his door in tears for the first few times) and it worked so well. When my health visitor suggested it at first it felt cruel but it did the trick and now hes 7 he’s a fantastic sleeper.

    We did the bath time and story time routine every night too … though now he reads to me quite often which melts my heart :)

    xxx

    #BrilliantBlogPost

    • 1 February 2015 / 6:43 pm

      Thanks for not hating me ;) Aw I love it when they first start reading to you! x

  10. Fern
    11 February 2015 / 9:58 am

    Hi! saw you had followed me on bloglovin and thought id come say hi!

    also a cornish mummy, living in truro. ive lived all over cornwall though so if weve met irl and im just being a bit dense im sorry :D

    your blog looks amazing. nice meeting a fellow cornish mummy :)

    • 11 February 2015 / 10:13 am

      Hi!

      Thank you, and Lol don’t worry I have never met anyone called Fern that I know of ;) Lovely name though by the way! I live in St Austell, but I have family in Truro, so over there quite often, so we have probably walked passed each other etc!x

  11. charlotte qualter
    24 February 2015 / 6:41 pm

    ahhh i have 4 children and they are all terrible sleepers 6 am is a lay in in my house we are all usually up by 5am! even at the weekends! but i have got used to it and have resigned myself to the fact that they will in all in turn come into me at some point during the night for me to tuck them back in. Sometimes wonder how i and my husband do it. To be honest think we are used to broken sleep.

    • 24 February 2015 / 7:39 pm

      Eek I have no idea how you do it either! I have friends like this though who have a ridiculously small amount of sleep every night, I’d be hopeless without sleep! It’s also nice that I’m usually awake before everyone else as well, as it gives me some quiet time to wake up gradually! Hopefully they’ll sleep later as they get older, mine have got even later with their lie ins the older they have gotten!
      Stevie x

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